My boyfriend wants me to move in with him.. im 18 and he is 20 what do i do help!!!?

Answer 1

18 is pretty young to live together. It usually ends up a nasty mess between the two people. Someone not pulling their weight when it comes to sharing the bills, housecleaning, cooking, etc. Just make sure he just doesn't want you to move in because he needs a maid.

Answer 2

Simple. Say NO. Listen, I know you are an adult, and I believe an 18 year old should be treated as one, (providing that they are acting like it), but in my personal opinion, 18 years old is just too young to be involved in a live-together relationship. I don't think anyone should live together before marriage, but if they do, it really should be when BOTH parters are at least 24. At 18, you're still a teenager, so ENJOY these young years you have! Have fun with friends and do fun stuff to make memories. You don't need to have some boyfriend try to screw you and get you pregnant! No 18 year old needs that at such a young age. Besides, what will your parents say if you do this? Have you even graduated from Highschool yet? Hope so. Get a part time job, or focus on getting a degree. don't let anything stand in your way of securing a good future for yourself. If your bf doesn't understand this, then he isn't worth your time.

Answer 3

You think you're too young to be this serious, if you feel that way tell him but gently. If you don't feel ready for other reasons then tell him honestly, you have a lot to consider moving in is a big step for couples.

Answer 4

You say "I'm so excited! Of course I will be moving in! A wife always moves into her husbands house RIGHT AFTER THE WEDDING!"

Then you see what he does.

If he gulps and says "Well, I think we are a little young to be making THAT sort of a commitment" point out that YOU ARE making exactly that sort of commitment. He wants to sleep with you, (while you are still young, hot and cute), he wants to have you around to help out with the housework and the rent, he thinks it will be great to come home and find you there with a good meal on the table and you all sexy and ready to go... but he lacks the guts to commit to being with you if you get pregnant, he lacks the guts to commit to being with you if get sick or injured and aren't hot and sexy anymore, and he lacks the commitment to stick with you if things get rough, and he lacks the courage to commit to being with you when you are old. ("Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I'm sixty-four?" as the Beatles said.)

Why do I say he lacks the guts? Well if he HAD the guts he wouldn't have said "move in with me" he would have said "marry me" and given you a ring and a date.

Now I'm not saying you should get married. I think you are way to young and so is your B/F. My mother in law got married when she was 17, and it worked out really well for her, but she was more mature at 17 than most people today are at 34.

I think that your b/f lacks something we used to call integrity, spine, and honor. He will probably say that he thinks you are to young to get married and he would be right... but "I'm to young to get married" is just a nice way of saying "I'm just fooling around here, this isn't forever."

So he's just fooling around, but he still wants to have you around and to sleep with you every night and basicly have you make all the commitments that a wife makes, but without having to make any sort of commitments himself. Moving in with him gives him a ton of controll over you (it is a lot harder to break up with someone when all your stuff is in their place and you don't have anywhere else to sleep at night) and over your personal life (if you meet someone else you really like it's going to be kind of hard to have a date with that guy when your b/f is at home wondering where you are). HE doesn't have to make any commitment though. He can kick you out at any time (its his place), he can see other people ("I'm just going out with the guys! Man! Why are you so suspicious and controlling!") .

Moving in with a guy is a bad move for a girl, any girl, and that is why marrage was instituted in the first place. The smart women said "I'm not doing this till I have a ring and a date" and the other girls all started to copy the smart ones.

So I think this is a really bad idea, and I think you know that or else you wouldn't be asking.

And if telling him no means you break up, then that's a GOOD thing for you in the long run. Any guy who wants to put you in a situtation where you are taking all the risks and he is taking none of the responsibility is NOT a "Good Catch". I don't think you have a boyfriend, you have a BOYfriend.

You deserve a guy who isn't afraid of commitment, and has the courage and honor to stick by his woman, and not use her. If this guy won't or can't do that, find one who can and will.

Answer 5

sit down and talk things through if u plan a long term relationship your gonna have to share everything in living together, dont be too rational.

Answer 6

Live on your own for a while longer, because if you move in with him he will become more controlling , trust me ive seen it happen!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

dont do it. thats a big step. unless your mature and ready for something like that. you should really think about that one...but all in all its your choice.

Answer 8

Go with your instincts, none of us here can judge you or tell you what to do.

Answer 9

You already know the answer!

Answer 10

if you're asking this question, i dont think you should