my bubba (Jonathan) is 11 years old. My hubby-wubby and I face the problem of getting him to sleep at night. He attempts to crawl in our bed and it scares me.... if we try to put him in his room he screams at the top of his lungs!! What can I do? I love my baby son so much even though hes 11
2007-03-04 06:28:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2007-03-04 06:34:08 · update #1
You should really stop babying him like that. He's 11 years old, stop talking to him like he's only 1. It's great that you love him and everything but if you keep doing this he's going to end up being a mommas boy and never moving out of the house and being the 40 year old virgin.
The reason he acts like a baby like that is because that is how you treat him. Begin to treat him like his age and you should see results.
2007-03-04 08:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by em<3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters it sounds like hes a little babied. Let him scream, he's 11 not 2 He is old enough to sleep in his own bed. My kids are 4 and 1 and they sleep in their own beds. Tell him it is off limits. Your bed is for you and your hubby-wubby, Not your 11 year old son.
2007-03-04 06:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might help if you stopped considering him a baby and using baby talk about him and your husband. I think your attitude is half the issue, here.
People will rise or fall to the level of the expectations around them.
If you want to raise a namby pamby little Momma's boy, keep going the way you are. Your "widdle baby" will never leave home, your hubby-wubby will eventually get sick of it and WILL leave home, and you'll end up like Norman Bates' mother.
2007-03-04 06:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He is a total brat. Let him scream , he is just using it to manipulate you. He needs to grow up some time.
If you are letting him get away with this, something that should of been sorted out by the time he was about 5, then I dread to think what else you are letting him get away with.
2007-03-04 06:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by typoqeen 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's with the baby talk... I can't believe an 11 year old even wants to sleep with you.. Good work.. are you still holding his wee wee when he pees.. or is he allowed to do that for himself.
2007-03-04 06:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ask him what is scareing him so much and try getting him a night light or a stuffed animal or reading him a story or staying with him untilhe falls asleep in his rome something is really scareing him ask him what it is am go from there
2007-03-04 06:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by aljohn316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just unnatural for him to be sleeping in your bed at that age, perhaps seeking some sort of counseling should be in order. (both to deal with the spearation anxiety as well as to deal with the fact hat at 11 he is still sleeping with his parents)
At that age he should be anxious to experience his own space, it is just not normal for him to be so attached to his parents..
2007-03-04 06:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by smedrik 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get him a night light. He might be scared of the dark. My niece is five and she has a night light.
2007-03-08 03:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by wetcat2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you talk to him like an imbecile. You may as well use him as a birth control device seeing as you have him trained to be one already.
2007-03-04 06:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read in a magazine that you could give him a certian amount of change every night and everytime he gets out of bed you take some away...what ever's left in the morning he gets. Or you could give him a "coupon" for one free trip out of bed for the night..to come give you a hug or to go get a glass of water. Once he uses his coupon for the night he has to stay in bed. good luck!
2007-03-04 06:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by uluvme8807 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋