What is a way to get over a miscarriage without antidepressants?

Question

I am going to the dr on Wed and they are going to get me on some meds and id prefer to not to be on meds so what are some things i can do to help me get over it without being on the meds?

Answer 1

Don't take antidepressants you'll have to go through it sooner or later so it will probably just delay your natural, healthy grieving process. It took me a year, I went through many different painful stages and so many things triggered pain and unhappiness and memories, sometimes things I thought would not affect me affected me terribly. Also all of the firsts are hard, like the due date, the first anniversary, the first christmas etc. I promise you will get through this but you must allow yourself the total luxury of grief, anger and pain because once you get it all out only then can you move on. I took care of myself in ways like lots of baths, letting myself cry as much as I needed to, a bit of shopping now and then, good books, lots and lots of hugs from the boyfriend, massages, my favourite foods when I felt like eating, a cosy blanket, anything to make me feel better and 'warm' me up because I felt cold. Get your thyroid tested and a full blood count to rule out hormonal imbalances that may be causing your depression to be worse. Mark that pregnancy in a certain way, you can name the baby, or i got a charm bracelet with a guardian angel on it that I wear constantly, I wrote pages and pages in a diary I bought. However time is really the best healer. After a year I realised it didn't hurt any more and that terrible pain is gone. Sit down with a pen and paper and make some plans and goals for when you feel better- I will never ever forget my first (and as it turns out the only one I will have) pregnancy, but I have moved on. You will too. it will get easier i promise.

Answer 2

Take a few days for yourself to grieve. Just hang out on the couch, cry, play sad songs, watch a movie, eat junk food. What ever it takes to get you feeling like you again. Write all your thoughts down in a journal. Don't dismiss your feelings you need to get them out.......... Then keep busy. I lost my baby 14years ago and still think about it every once in awhile. Sure it is sad but that is what God intended. I now have a 4month old girl and am very happy. Good things come to good people. Please take care and if you need any help or to talk to some one call a friend or relative that is supportive.

Answer 3

It's never easy,

My friend had the same problem, antidepressants will help you hold off your feelings for a while until you are ready, but if you really don't want them you have a few options (but they aren't as effective):

1) go volunteer in the hospital.
2) get another new baby.
3) alcohol
4) doing hobbies to diverge your mind.
5) get emotional support from your family and friends


hope you feel better.

Answer 4

If you prefer the alternative treatment options, pl. think of Bach Flower Essences. Go to the following free online course:

http://floweressencesintro.onlinecourse.com/

and see the lesson on depression for good advice.