How can i apologize to my dad?

Question

i disrespected him about 17 days ago
and on that day
he said i could not have a specific priviledge until i apologized
i am not good with apologys
and i do not feel sorry about what i did
i feel that i was in the right
but how do i apologize so that i can get that privaledge back w/o looking like all i am doing is trying to get that privaledge back?

Answer 1

Apologizing—A Key to Making Peace

“APOLOGIES are powerful. They resolve conflicts without violence, repair schisms between nations, allow governments to acknowledge the suffering of their citizens, and restore equilibrium to personal relationships.” So wrote Deborah Tannen, a best-selling author and sociolinguist at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C.

The Bible confirms that a sincere apology is often an effective way to repair a damaged relationship. For example, in Jesus’ parable of the prodigal son, when the son returned home and offered a heartfelt apology, the father was more than ready to receive him back into the household. (Luke 15:17-24) Yes, a person should never be too proud to swallow his pride, apologize, and seek forgiveness. Of course, for sincerely humble individuals, apologies are not so difficult to make.

The Power of an Apology

Abigail, a wise woman in ancient Israel, provides an example of the power of an apology, although her apology was for a wrong that her husband had committed. While dwelling in the wilderness, David, who later became king of Israel, together with his men protected the flock that belonged to Abigail’s husband, Nabal. Yet, when David’s young men asked for bread and water, Nabal sent them away with very insulting remarks. Provoked, David led about 400 men to go up against Nabal and his household. Upon learning of the situation, Abigail set out to meet David. When she saw him, she fell upon her face at his feet. Then she said: “Upon me myself, O my lord, be the error; and, please, let your slave girl speak in your ears, and listen to the words of your slave girl.” Abigail then explained the situation and gave David a gift of food and drink. At that, he said: “Go up in peace to your house. See, I have listened to your voice that I may have consideration for your person.”—1 Samuel 25:2-35.

Abigail’s humble attitude along with her words of apology for her husband’s rude behavior spared her household. David even thanked her for restraining him from entering into bloodguilt. Although it was not Abigail who had mistreated David and his men, she accepted the blame for her family and made peace with David.

Another example of someone who knew when to apologize is the apostle Paul. Once, he had to defend himself before the Sanhedrin, the Jewish high court. Infuriated by Paul’s honest words, the high priest Ananias ordered those standing by Paul to strike him on the mouth. At that, Paul said to him: “God is going to strike you, you whitewashed wall. Do you at one and the same time sit to judge me in accord with the Law and, transgressing the Law, command me to be struck?” When onlookers accused Paul of reviling the high priest, the apostle immediately admitted his error, saying: “Brothers, I did not know he was high priest. For it is written, ‘You must not speak injuriously of a ruler of your people.’”—Acts 23:1-5.

What Paul had said—that the one appointed as judge should not resort to violence—was valid. Still, he apologized for unknowingly speaking to the high priest in a manner that could be viewed as being disrespectful. Paul’s apology paved the way for the Sanhedrin to listen to what he had to say. Since Paul was aware of the controversy among the members of the court, he told them that he was being tried for his belief in the resurrection. Consequently, much dissension arose, with the Pharisees siding with Paul.—Acts 23:6-10.

What can we learn from these two Biblical examples? In both instances, honest expressions of regret opened the way for further communication. So words of apology can help us to make peace. Yes, admitting our mistakes and apologizing for damage done can open up opportunities for constructive discussions.

‘But I Have Not Done Anything Wrong’

When we find out that someone was offended by what we said or did, we may feel that the person is being unreasonable or too sensitive. Yet, Jesus Christ advised his disciples: “If, then, you are bringing your gift to the altar and you there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar, and go away; first make your peace with your brother, and then, when you have come back, offer up your gift.”—Matthew 5:23, 24.

For example, a brother may feel that you have sinned against him. In such a situation, Jesus says that you are to go and “make your peace with your brother,” whether you feel you have done him wrong or not. According to the Greek text, the word Jesus here used ‘denotes mutual concession after mutual hostility.’ (Vine’s Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words) Indeed, when two humans are at odds, there may be a measure of blame on both sides, since both are imperfect and prone to err. This usually calls for mutual concessions.

The issue is, not so much who is right and who is wrong, but who will take the initiative to make peace. When the apostle Paul noticed that the Christians in Corinth were taking fellow servants of God to secular courts over such personal differences as financial disagreements, he corrected them: “Why do you not rather let yourselves be wronged? Why do you not rather let yourselves be defrauded?” (1 Corinthians 6:7) Although Paul said this to discourage fellow Christians from airing their personal differences in secular courts, the principle is clear: Peace among fellow believers is more important than proving who is right and who is wrong. Keeping this principle in mind makes it easier to apologize for a wrong that someone thinks we have committed against him or her.

Sincerity Needed

Some people, though, overuse the words that are meant to express apology. For instance, in Japan, the word sumimasen, a typical expression used in apologizing, is heard thousands of times. It can even be used to express gratitude, implying an uneasy feeling of not being able to reciprocate the favor shown. Because of its versatility, some may feel that the word is used too often and may wonder if those saying it are really sincere. Forms of apology may seem to be overused in other cultures too.

In any language, it is important to be sincere when extending an apology. The wording and the tone of voice should convey the genuineness of sorrow. Jesus Christ taught his disciples in the Sermon on the Mount: “Just let your word Yes mean Yes, your No, No; for what is in excess of these is from the wicked one.” (Matthew 5:37) If you apologize, mean it! To illustrate: A man in line at an airport check-in counter apologized when his luggage nudged the woman waiting next in line. A few minutes later, when the line moved, the suitcase again touched the woman. Once more, the man courteously apologized. When the same thing happened yet another time, the woman’s traveling companion told him that if he really meant what he had said, he should make sure that the baggage did not touch the woman again. Yes, a sincere apology should be accompanied by the determination not to repeat the mistake.

If we are sincere, our apology will include an admission of any wrong, a seeking of forgiveness, and an effort to undo damage to the extent possible. In turn, the one who was offended should readily forgive the repentant wrongdoer. (Matthew 18:21, 22; Mark 11:25; Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13) Since both parties are imperfect, peacemaking may not always proceed smoothly. Still, words of apology are a strong force toward making peace.

Answer 2

Dude, you could start out on the RIGHT foot by JUST BEING REAL!! Don't you think your dad can spot the difference between Fake and Genuine??!! Stop and think about what happened for a minute. Now, be truthful with yourself...maybe you're not sorry for standing up for yourself, but the WAY that you went ABOUT it WAS WRONG...you used wrong language, attitude and you disrespected your dad by THE WAY you did it! So, do yourself (and your dad) a favor and learn to do what most men NEVER learn to do in a lifetime: APOLOGIZE!! IT TAKES A BIG MAN TO BE ABLE TO SAY HE'S SORRY!! Ask ANY Woman!!

Answer 3

the best thing to do is to be honest with him.
tell him that you're sorry for disrespecting him. you're sorry about that aren't you? i mean, you could express yourself without disrespecting him. tell him exactly how you feel.
don't do it just to get the priviledges back. that wouldn't go far, you'll get in similar trouble again.
tell him why you felt you were right, and be open to his ideas too. after all he's lived longer and he may have something to say because of his mistakes and stuff he learned from his past that he may not want to share with you (what parent would want to admit that they'd done similar bad thing in the past, right?). He's only trying his best to help you do the right thing, so be honest, be open, and be respectful.

Answer 4

Maybe you could tell him just that, that you do not feel you were wrong--give concrete, simple reasons. Explain that you did not intend disrespect, but that part of becoming an adult is to have your own point of view and to be able to feel safe voicing it. If he does not give in, suck it up, take the punishment and file the experience away and don't repeat it. Part of dealing with your parents is learning how to get your way and play the game. I'm not saying lie to them, but schmooze them a little. They have egos too.

Answer 5

you would possibly want to say sorry and say what u did incorrect, and that i continually have this awkward ingredient the position I cry at the same time as i'm apologizing bc i trust so to blame and yea so that is difficult for me too. fairly my dad is rly mad at me now and that i'm contemplating a fashion to say sorry. lol. anyhow he will probable both say he did something incorrect too, and promises u a huge hug or merely hug u and convey regret or merely hug u.

Answer 6

This is what I think you should do, You should talk to your dad, tell him really sorry just say I've done a really bad thing try to talk and it really becomes fun just talk random stuff i had this happen once. I started talking random stuff and they weren't mad they laughed! You could say you still can make me grounded but I'm just really sorry and hug him. It will be fine but don't be crazy just act normal and think that you are really really sorry. Let him feel it

Answer 7

You probably should take the time to see who really is at fault for what happened, and tell him how you really feel from the heart. that way, he'll know you're mature and try to comprehend the situation and what happened. good luck!

Answer 8

just go up to him, say your sorry, and give him a big kiss.

well that works for a 13year old girl

:)