i have known this guy since october and have spent everyday with him..... knowning he was going through a dirovce and he has two kids i was still willing to be with him.... well me and him were always together and having a great time but then my best friend who lived with me at the time got really upset bc i was spending most of my time with him.... well on my bday he was going to take me to a dinner and a movie but the plans were ruined bc my best friend went to..... well we were together for a couple of months and things were going great but then me and my best friend got into a big fight and he thought i was choosing him over her but i wasnt... well i couldnt foucse on my realtionship and help him through what he needed me or anything bc i felt like i had to baby my best friend... well finally i got sick of it bc i was really into this guy so i told her she had to move out and she did... well im still living at his house with him and his kids but we are not together...
2007-03-04 06:00:45 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have told him that if he wants me to i will move out but he says i dont have to.... we still have fun together but my heart keeps telling me to hang in there bc he will coome back to u... his mom saids just give it time he will come back hes just confused and has alot to go through and i understand that... but im just scared that i may never get him back and i dont know if i will have the strenght to walk out and leave them kids.... what am i supposed to say or do when they start crying and telling me not to leave them... i know they are not my kids but when u spend everyday with them u grow to love them like they are ur own and i dont know how to walk away from him... i know that it has been a short time that we have known each other but when u spend everyday together well i ended up falling in love with him and he has told me that he loved me to... i just dont know if i should wait or not bc i do love him and i know he loves me too
2007-03-04 06:06:37 · update #1
Well, his kids will grow up to think it's ok to shack up.Youre friend was jealous and lonely is why she didnt like you being with him all the time.With someone getting divorced though ,there will be a period where his anger towards his ex may be directed at you(not necesarily,but it is possible).Unless he totally hated her, he is still hurting and you may just be "convenient" like a bandaid and once the wound is healed, the band aid is ripped off and thrown away.You may eventually marry too, but if the kids keep contact with the mother, here is what you have to look forward to:
1.She will ALWAYS be a aprt of your life .2.She may be vindictive and seek for ways to cause you grief. 3. The kids may resent yyou and side with her. 4. the kids will play all parents and step parents against one another to get what they want. 5. When you have kids there will be a lot of tension in the house between step kids and the kids born to you.Think about it.
2007-03-04 06:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that is the most confusing thing I've seen in a while. PRIORITIZE. What is important to you?
Do that.
2007-03-04 06:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he is using you i hope im wrong
2007-03-04 06:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋