Started the job last Monday. Got the invite on Wednesday. Its a dinner this coming Wednesday. I kind of feel like its a test on whether or not I feel comfortable with my female co-workers. So far, I've turned down every lunch and breakfast invite. But thats because I just don't have the $$$. And now, a fancy resturant? Do I just spare the $ and make a good impression with them? Or do I not go and face some kind of resentment or something?
2007-03-04 05:47:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i wouldnt, havent even worked there long enought to get to know them. probably was invited just to be polite,
2007-03-04 05:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. When I started my new job around christmas i had no money to pitch in. I just told them that money was tight and they understood. I turned down many lunch outings but I think that if you could spare some for the shower dinner would be good. That is a important thing and that you got invited just starting is good that they want to include you. Do as I do and just order really light and say that you are not real hungary, that always works for me.
2007-03-04 05:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Granny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you were invited to a shower, you shouldn't have to pay for your meal. That's rude. You should never ever have to pay for a meal when you are invited somewhere.
I think you should go. If you plan on working there for awhile, I would bite te bullet and just try to have a good time. If you need an inexpensive gift, try pottery barn or pier one for a nice candle and a throw blanket or something.
good luck!
2007-03-04 09:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if she gave you an invitation you should go. It's a great way to get to know your co-workers away from the office.
2007-03-05 10:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS WOULD BE A GREAT OPPURTUNITY FOR YOU TO GET TO KNOW SOME OF UR CO WORKERS... I MEAN, IF YOU PLAN ON BEING THERE A WHILE, YOU MAY WANT FRIENDS... AND WHAT BETTER WAY TO DO IT EXCEPT GO TO A WOMANS BRIDAL SHOWER... GIRL TALK, LAUGHIN, FOOD... YOU DONT NECESSARILY HAVE TO PICK THE MOST EXPENSIVE THING ON THE MENU... EAT AT THE SALAD BAR, AND HAVE A GREAT TIME!
2007-03-04 05:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that since you just started this job you are not in the financial position to spend this kind of money. get her a nice card and an inexpensive gift. (most women like scented candles. or you can try a gift card for a manicure or a pedicure) you don't really know these people yet so it's hard to shop for them. personally, i think they are trying to make you feel welcome since you are so new, but they should understand if you are unable to attend. i hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-04 05:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel intimidated apologize saying you already had somewhere to be and send a gift picture frame or something else like that it will definitely give a good impression and people won't think you are avoiding them.
2007-03-04 05:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go!! try and spare the money if you dont go they may think you are stuck up and better than they are be at your best!! Make a good first impression remember it is a lasting one!!
2007-03-04 05:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Hypnotic Cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go it would be a great time for you to get to know the people you are going to be working with. if money is the issue just order an appetizer and get water to drink. it would be kinda weired if you don't go and you may never get invited to anything Else.
2007-03-04 11:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by fobfanlovesgreg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up to you. Give her a card or a little gift if not. Let them know money is tight so you do not have extra for a lot of thse work outings that you do not mean to be acting as you do not want to be with them.
2007-03-04 05:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless your invited to the wedding I wouldnt go to the bridal shower. bridal showers are basically only so the bride can collect gifts. and I would not give a gift if I'm not invited to the wedding.
2007-03-04 10:45:48 · answer #11 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋