These past few months have been really hard and my appearance has gotten worse and worse. Me and my fiance are no longer sexually intimate and he looks at other women a WHOLE lot more. Men, can you explain to me what is going thru my fiance's mind. ? How he feels ? Why he is depressed ? I know he loves me but.........
2007-03-04 05:47:08 · 5 answers · asked by Kendra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you letting your appearance go? And why aren't you still having sex? These are keys things with men. Even if things are hard, you need to make the time to look good for him sometimes. Maybe not quite as much when as you are just dating, but don't let it go because there is a ring on your finger. Get in the shower, get yourself all dressed up and take him out tonite to dinner and come home and have sex. He's wondering where you went....he wants the woman he fell in love with back.
2007-03-04 05:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must ask why you let your appearance go in the first place. Was it because you were getting all decked out to find the right person and when you did you felt compelled not to care anymore about what you looked like? You must remember what he found appealing when you first saw each other. I realize this may all sound superficial but that's how men are. If you want to keep him you have to return to the woman he fell in love with. If you have gotten fat....loose the weight. Did you stop wearing makeup....start putting it back on. Also I don't know how old you both are. When you get older you don't care that much in look...more so for companionship then anything else. But the younger generation ....it's all about looks.
2007-03-04 05:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by catusco51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, appearance matters to a certain extent. Often times when women are in serious relationships or marriages they get so comfortable with their significant other that they stop caring so much about appearance. Not to mention their partner may shower them with "You look the most beautiful naturally" type of compliments.
However, this isn't a free pass out of maintaining a polished look. What you may be overlooking is that your happiness may be affected by this pattern. For example, not putting as much effort into your appearance might make you feel incomplete or overlooked. It makes you more vulnerable into thinking your fiance is looking at other girls. He might be seeing these defects!
In conclusion, you want to put a certain amount of effort into your appearance. How much? Whatever makes YOU feel sexy and confident. Whatever makes you stop thinking about this issue.
2007-03-04 05:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Precious he's not depressed, you are. You have caught it just in time, you wrote only a few months. Get up just like when you and him first met, earlier to get yourself ready for whatever. yes they (men), get into real routine with life, but guess what he doe not like to get into looking at his woman look like everything else getting a welfare check, take that extra moment to make you look your best. You will feel better about your self and your sex life will pick back up. Do it now, don't back out before you get going good, and don't give him an excuse to do so either. You bring the spice back, QUICKLY............
2007-03-04 06:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same when a man shows you the best of him, but hides the worst for a later time in the relationship.
When someone builds an image of you, it's really hard to accept you looking different than that image. And, when you start losing interest in yourself, people naturally lose interest in you too.
I think you should dust off your original image and be the same person he knew before.
Good luck!
2007-03-04 05:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋