I've known my friend for over 3 years, we're in college and he has a girlfriend. I have a crush on him and care very much for him. He says he cares too, but the past year we've been hooking up. He breaksup with her every now and then but gets together 3 days later. I don't know how to confront him about me wanting to have a relationship with him without the fear of loosing him. He also gets upset when I start a relationship and does what he can to sabatouge it. I dont think its fair for his girlfriend or me to be in this situation. I do love him and wish he would choose me over her but I also want to move on so I can have a healthy relationship. What do I do?
2007-03-04 05:45:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should just leave him alone and move on. You already see how he gets when you start a relationship. Is this someone you really want to be with? He is playing with you and her at the same time, which should tell you that he doesn't respect you or her. You are right, it is not fair for his girlfriend and you for the way he is treating both of you. You are in love with the wrong guy.
I don't think you know what you really want. But, if you love yourself and respect yourself, then you would just leave the two of them alone. What he is doing is wrong and with you standing by and watching this happen to his girlfriend, is just as bad.
Don't get involved with him and tell him that what he is doing is wrong to you and her. Tell him that you just want to be friends and remain friends, only. That is the right thing to do.
2007-03-04 05:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have made yourself available to him and he has taken advantage of the situation.
Your friend is getting the dirty end of the stick from both of you.
I dont' know how you sleep at night.
If this man will cheat on his gf what does that say to you???
He will do the same if you are togther...... This is a stupid 3 some that you are respponsible for.
You have crossed the line,. he was involved, she was your friend. Give your head a shake... this can go nowhere and not only are you going to loose a gf but also you will look like a untrustworthy person.
You do not cheat with a guy who has a gf.
You do not dis your friend...
How can you ever think he can be trusted or yourself for that matter?
You are willing to put everything on the line for a crumb of a relationship.
I would want the whole loaf and settling for seconds is just not my style.
You need to distance yourself from this guy immediately and try to get some of your self respect back.
Do not answer his call, emails, texts,,etc.......
Cut all ties , he is not a friend anymore as he has slept with you... so don't go there.
You can't control yourself so make it easy, no contact
He is with someone and when he starts cheating on her again with someone else maybe she will find out and get rid of him
You owe her a big apology and you had better think about doing it soon, once you cut ties.
I don't know how it will end, but you will be damn lucky if she remains a friend;
This is a lesson for you to quit selling yourself short and have a little more faith in you.
Have a conscience and be a good friend not a traitor....
You are worth something more than tidbits of someone else's relationship.
You deserve something real and all your own...
Move on
2007-03-04 06:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? You end it . If he really cared for you he wouldn't keep going back to his girlfriend. This guy isn't much of a friend to you, to put you through this emotional turmoil. But on the other hand you should have known better especially after the first time he broke up with his girlfriend and went right back to her.
You deserve better...STOP LETTING MEN USE YOUR BODY AS THEIR PERSONAL PLAYGROUND.
2007-03-04 06:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would just tell your friend whats been goin on. But the risk with that is that she'll be mad about you accepting him and hooking up. But 1st try talking to him and say that it has to stop between you two. And just if you feel comfortable, then tell your friend.But you have to get it through his head that this isn't the right thing to be doing.
2007-03-04 05:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared about you he would have left her for you long ago- but it seems that he only uses you and doesnt want you to be happy if he messes up your other relationships
Move on - he is neer going to change and if he does it may end up that he will cheat on you with someone else
2007-03-04 05:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cant have it both ways. Tell him to make a decision, choose one, or your out of here. Stick to it also. If you continue with this triangle, both women will be hurt. He has no right to tell you not to date. He really thinks he is something doesn't he. Stop this now, you will not be sorry.
2007-03-04 05:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
come correct with the girl Friend and then both of you go get tested for std because if his doing you and a girlfriend he probably a opportunity sexer meaning he has sex every opportunity hes given AND you knew that he had a girlfriend what does that make you heres hoping that you get what you give
2007-03-04 05:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by maxiumdamage 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i will be very honest with you... sweety if he wanted a relationship with you he would have ended it with his girlfriend... now he is kinda getting his cake and eating it too... so ask him to choose and if he says he cant just say i cant live like this and move on... you deserve better!
2007-03-04 05:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by future_shrink_22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with his girlfriend, and set him up some night. Let him walk in when the both of you are there...
2007-03-04 05:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by jupiter49801 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand up for yourself. You need to point out to him that even though you are friends, you have needs. You need to tell him to make a choice. If he's really your friend he'll understand and if not, well... you need to find better friends.
2007-03-04 05:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by FunnyGuy216 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋