We have a person at our church that interrupts, yells outs, insults, acts "emo", and is very attention seeking. We've tried to help her out, but she just seems to act the same, to get more attention. She even went as far as to make a suicide threat at church. She has ended up driving people away from our youth group.
2007-03-04 05:41:14 · 18 answers · asked by paigel2005 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Dress up like a nun and run after her with a yardstick.
2007-03-04 05:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
If she is acting so violently she probably has problems at home. Finding out what her parents are like and what she has been going through may turn out to be you safety. Make sure that she is not being teased or overwhelmed by children. The odd children, goths, emo's, etc. are often tormented by their peers. As kind and nice as some children may seem, they all have a cruel side.
If she is such a problem source and has attempted a suicidal threat it means she needs help and is screaming SOS. You should keep an eye out for troublesome signs like cuts on her wrists or burn marks. These are forms of self mutilation that may eventually go out of control. Unfortunately they are very popular in the "underground" scene these days. You may want to try a one on one if you are the leader of the youth ministry but you may also consider asking some friends to help her out.
If she doesn't have any in the group that could be another problem source. Try an "invite a friend" day and she if she shows. If all else fails pray. The Lord is very powerful and can always lend a hand.
Good Luck and may the Lord help all involved.
--JC
2007-03-04 06:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Morbid_Engel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if this child has psychological/emotional problems. The best way to find out what is going on is for the Youth pastor or youth director to make an appointment with the child's parents to find out what is going on and see how best the church and the family can work together to make this an environment of fun and learning for all participants, including this child.
The last thing the child needs is to be ostracized or kicked out. Where is the Christian love in that? Maybe her acting out is a result of what she is seeing or what is happening in her home.
There is no way you can make a reasonable judgment about her until you know what is happening in her environment at home or school.
I don't know how you will handle it but the child seems to be crying out for love and attention. Maybe if all of you can dig down deep and ask for grace to show her the love of Christ it would make a difference in her life now and for many years to come. I have seen it happen many times and it can happen again.
Will keep her and your group in prayer.
2007-03-04 05:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kay T 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
"an issue toddler" certain, she has an issue, and via the sound of it many. and probable very severe. i does no longer call her an issue toddler. although a baby with some complications. And as an grownup, you being conscious that she has tried suicide, you need to the contact the authorities. it is your criminal responsibility. looking for interest is a cry for help. The anger she is expressing is area of the themes she is suffering in silence from. She needs a functional and depended on grownup to communicate with and clarify what is going on. there is something fantastically undesirable occurring right here. and that i'm afraid if someone does no longer intrude right now she would prevail in her journey. So contact the proper authorities, the police, the suicide warm-line maximum cities have a psychological well being disaster line listed contained in the phone e book. solid success and God bless****
2016-11-27 21:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think her parents would actually help her and not punish her, speak to them. Tell them that you are concerned that she might be depressed (suicide threat), and recommend that she get some counseling with a licensed psychotherapist.
If you think her parents might be part of the problem, take this girl aside privately and kindly, gently tell her you are worried about her and would like to help. Then, steer her in the direction of a licensed psychotherapist.
2007-03-04 05:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by catrionn 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a chat with this child and their parents about the behavior. And if it continues then ask her not to come back. Youth Group is supposed to be fun and a time to learn about God. It is not fair for her to interrupt the good time of the other children who want to be there.
2007-03-04 06:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You have an obligation to guide. Seems she has some real issues. Speak to her parent/parents regarding some psychiatric counseling. Have you spoken to her and her guardians, all of you together to give her x amount of time to speak & have the spotlight on her? She's crying out for something.
You've got some fasting, prayer, & homework to do.
2007-03-04 05:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by ink! 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the Pastor/Priest to talk with her & her parents. This is a serious problem & He or She as the head of your church needs to step in and handle this.
2007-03-04 06:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Julia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her parents. They may think that forcing her to go to church will help her be more normal or happy. Tell them her behavior is inappropriate and she is very unhappy there.
2007-03-04 06:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
when I was like 12 .I hit a guy back "slightly" for hitting me at church, this man saw it and excluded me from that particular group, i quit church,my mother begged that man to apologize as it wasn't my fault.and to ask me to come back but he wouldn't.That took me away from Christ for many years,
You should sit her down with the pastor and have a long talk with her about Christ and his teachings. and teach her about faith and love,show her Love.and understanding,she needs something, find out what she needs.
you shouldn't be rude to her .do not run her off from church,But tell her that if she is going to continue her misbehavior then she will excluded from those activities she disrupts.but do be nice about it.Pray to the Spirit of God for guidance about this,Remember that Jesus said that having Love is the most important of all his teachings.I wish Y'all the best.
2007-03-04 05:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
wow thats a toughie! all you can really do is pray for this girl. she has some serious issues! kicking her out could be a big problem but you do need to have standards/rules and if they are broken ask them to leav for the night.
2007-03-04 05:46:32 · answer #11 · answered by Lyss K 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋