Ok i might sound niave but i'm not. I have 2 kids aged 4(boy) and daughter9. I have decided to split them bathing togething but as you can imagine this is now a chore in washing their hair etc as they both like a soak and play in the bath.
I am a single dad and not great with grooming of girls hair all though i do try my best.
Should i now encourage my daughter to have baths and wash herself and wash her own hair
2007-03-04 05:35:02 · 31 answers · asked by Jay 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes she should be allowed to wash her own hair etc!
But keep an eye on her when she's in the bath, just to make sure she's allright.
2007-03-04 05:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by M 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all can I say you deserve a medal for being a single dad !!
Your 9 year old should be able to wash herself come bath time, I would think she would probably like a little privacy now she is growing up... However, there is no harm in letting her know if she needs you you are there to help her. As for her hair, if it's long you could help her wash it over the bath or show her how to do this. As for your 4 year old, my youngest is 4 and come bath time she washes her funny bits, and I help by washing her face, neck & behind the ears !!
Im sure all will be ok and well done for doing such a good job so far !!!
2007-03-04 06:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At nine she should be able to take a bath by herself. Washing her hair might depend on how long it is. If it is really long you might have to help her. being a dad won't keep you from learning how to fix her hair. Many women don't feel capable of doing hair. You can get books at the library or search on-line for hairstyles. Braids always look neat and you can learn to do them if I can. It was challenging to learn but once you do it looks great. People do judge us if we are messy so try and find something that the two of you can make look nice. Hair stylists can often give you hints. If they aren't willing to than find another one. Also girly hair barrettes and bows and ponytail holders help hair look nicer if she likes them.
To make the play time seem longer but not get out of hand, use a timer. Say you can play until the timer goes off and than we are finishing up and getting out. And if they are dragging their feet in doing other chores you can use the timer saying, " If you get this done before the timer goes off you can use the extra minutes for playing in the tub." Just keep it fun and everyone will have a good time, even Dad.
2007-03-04 05:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by a_song_from_the_heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should encourage her as soon as possible. Best way to do this is to buy her lots of fancy smelly things for the bath (like fizzy bath bomb things etc) and some cool shampoo. If you're in the Uk, go into Boots and get some Toni & Guy hair products or anything with nice looking packaging to encourage her to have a bath on her own and wash her own hair. Pay for her to get a new hairstyle too, as that might inspire her more. Good Luck!
2007-03-04 05:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you daughter is far to old to be getting bathed by you and certainly shouldnt be bathed at the same time as her little brother. Girls can start puberty at your daughters age so she needs privacy. Bath your son early after tea time and then let your daughter bath herself at say 7pm, you should however run the bath and check that the water is not to hot and also tell her not to lock the door incase she was to have an accident etc. Buy your daughter some johnsons baby shampoo and a leave in conditioner this will make washing her hair easier. A wide tooth comb also makes brushing hair easier especially if its tuggy. I can imagine that as a dad you will find doing girls hair difficult so buy your daughter some pretty hair bands, then all she needs to do is brush her hair and put a hairband on, so it will be pretty but simple to do. good luck
2007-03-04 07:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has been old enough for quite some time now dad. My little girl is 6 I still start the shower water for her, and we have a hand held wand. I make sure the water isn't too hot them i tell her to get in. I remind her " wash good baby" and she says yes mommy...........
I stay close enough to hear her, but let her do it on her own. She has long hair that tangles easy.... so i will ask if her hair is washed, then i go in and put in the conditioner, I time it and then tell her to rinse it out. I check to just make sure she rinsed it well when I take her a towel. She turns off the water. I am working on teaching her how to do this on her own now. This week I just turn it on, and check her hair when done.
She is very clean so I never have to see if she washed well. She loves soap lol And will stay in as long as she can lol
2007-03-04 05:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by tammer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have kids the same age, and its time she starts having a little more responsibility. Have her take a shower and you can check on her while she is in the shower for the first few times. Make sure she is washing all the soap out of her hair (they have the most problems with this) Then as a reward for being so responsible, let her pick out her favorite body wash and shampoo, it will make her feel like she is growing up!
2007-03-04 05:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by Damn!™sumgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 9 she is quite capable of washing herself and her hair. She may need you to check and make sure that she has rinsed all of the shampoo out and did a good job. She is also at the age where she will start to want some privacy so this is a very good time to encourage Independence. When she is out of the tub and dressed or in pyjamas, spend some time together combing her hair.
She may also like to try showering sometimes as well.
2007-03-04 05:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by JonEmBethErin 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
She Should already be grooming herself to a certain extent(washing, combing, bathing , deodorant) but you can still help her out with brushing her hair and you should start with the boy now helping with brushing teeth is still recommended so that they know how to properly do it....if you have a sister or aunt you may ask them to educate her on feminine hygiene b/c she is coming close to that age and when it does happen you don't want it to be a catastrophe
2007-03-04 06:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that at 9 years old she can learn to wash her hair and bath herself just fine. I would check in on her from time to time to make sure she is fine and not having problems but it is time to let her start to grow up. Very soon you will be having to explain why she is bleeding and not dieing and teaching her she needs to shave as well. So for now let her do this and it will not put so much stress on you. Good luck.
2007-03-04 05:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a nine year old girl should start taking her own baths and washing her hair. she may be beginning to develop and she should have an Aunt she can talk to. As she may need to know the facts of life, like the birds and the bees. Hope this helps you out a little dad. Good luck!
2007-03-04 05:46:08 · answer #11 · answered by marie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋