it ended quite bad due to many reasons I think- IVe spoke to my ex ( who i was with for 2 years ) and to be honest I think she is just very confused and needs space- she seems unsure why she ended it and have used quite a few reasons.
Ii no i cant do anything and have pushed her further away in trying to solve things.
Just wondering for some advise- like should I just leave her to contact me as she left it that she doesnt want to see/talk to me again. I know her mates have had an influence on her- but as i said she seemed very confused and vulnerable.
She acted totally out of character when we met- i never seen the side of her before and we were really close. I know people grow apart but its wierd as its not liek her and was outta the blue.
people will prob say just move on but its hard as i do miss her and realise i took her for granted. and i kidding myself thinking she will txt me or call me?
2007-03-04 05:28:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
would it be wise to contact her in a few weeks though- seeing as she siad to me she didnt want me to and didnt want to speak to me again? It really hurt her saying that and it wasnt like her at all!
2007-03-04 05:39:09 · update #1
I know it's hard,and you're really hurting right now-but give her space now. Just step back and concentrate on feeling stronger in yourself,as I'm sure this has all caused you to have an emotional setback. In time-and I'm talking 2 weeks at the earliest-send a short text that just says that you're thinking of her and you realize you took her for granted and you're sorry for that. After that,don't contact her again. Hopefully your text will make her want to contact you. Good luck.
2007-03-04 05:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is feeling vunerable at the moment then I think you will be doing the right thing by giving her some space. If you keep contacting her when she has asked you not to it will only confuse her more and encourage her to keep her distance.
I would recommend that you give her some space. If she realises she has made a mistake she will contact you. Although, you must prepare yourself for the possibility that she might not ever want you back. You may think that this has come out of the blue but for her this may have been developing for a while.
Hope everything works oout for you
2007-03-04 05:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by yuri_fire_demon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the best way to get someones attention is to stop contacting them and once you have stopped doing that it will leave her to think about how much she misses you. Im a woman so speaking from a womans point of view if you are constantly getting the attention froma man....we like it, once it stops we miss it...perhaps what you could do if you are concerned about her vunerability then send her one last text saying you are there if she needs you but you appreciate its not what she wants...I could be wrong but maybe if you actually give her some space, in a few days she may realise she doesnt want it. Oftwen for a woman (and men I guess) we finish things to get attention, like our way of saying "hey things arent going well...take some notice" and it has the desired effect!! So maybe its her way of trying to get you to see stuff isnt going well.. Goodluck
2007-03-04 05:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by doodlebip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine did too, I was sexually attacked by my last boyfriend, I shyed away from relationships for 12 years after that. I found love at work with Ian, a security guard, after thinking I will never love again. Do things in your own time honey, just make sure you are happy.Grievance of a break up is different to everyone. xxx
2007-03-04 09:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Joanne W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My final courting ended because of fact i found out that my ex (ok this could take awhile) A) replaced into cheating on me with each and every little thing that moved jointly with a 13 year previous, a fifteen year previous, and a 17 year previous (the 17 year previous replaced into the lady chum of one of my sturdy pals he's 20 btw or replaced into at that factor somewhat). B) He replaced into bodily and mentally abusive and had me confident that i could not stay to tell the tale with out him, that all of us thought i replaced into grotesque, and that i might by no potential discover everyone that liked me as much as he did. and C) i stumbled on somebody extra advantageous, sweeter, and lots extra advantageous endowed and extra advantageous in mattress and that i fell in love with him, married him, and had his infant.
2016-10-17 06:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a breather dude. she may be messed up and confused but she had the sense to ask for her space. so respect that and move on.
sure you miss her and i'm sure she misses you but you need to clear your head as much as she does. take the next few weeks to concentrate on you...get back in shape, boys night, work on your car, get your grades up etc.
i'm sure you don't mean to but you're starting to sound obsessed......
2007-03-04 06:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I see it, all you can do is give her space. Let her initiate the contact.
Meantime, get out there and meet other people, even just as friends. Don't sit and mope. That doesn't help at all.
2007-03-04 05:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is dont do anything that you will regret. If there unfinished things that need to be resolved then talk to her about it. Otherwise you might just regret not doing Good luck
2007-03-04 05:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋