I'm in an Long Distance Relationship, both on opposite ends of the coast. We talk online every day for hours and have talked on the phone a few times. I told him I love him and care about him so much, but I'm too pessimistic about the relationship based on the distance. (And the fact that I've gotten my heart broken more than it should have been) I want to trust him so much, but the little things he does just makes me wonder. He'll let some woman he told me is annoying to continue to hassle him and won't do anything about it, yet will get angry when I don't push away a classmate who is uncomfortably butting in (I've told said classmate to leave me alone. that's about it). I'm afraid of driving him off with my consistent doubts and insecurities, what should I do? I know about not thinking about it or mentioning it, but I want our relationship to be honest.
2007-03-04 05:16:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He also claims he'll call me over and over but never seems to do so. And I call him but his cellphone is always off. He also makes so many excuses when I ask him about doing something with me/for me.
2007-03-04 05:19:32 · update #1
Whoa for a second I thought you had to be my girlfriend. No joke. Exactly the same stories, and you sound just like she would if she was trying to ask people about it. Only difference is I don't have a cell, that's what eased my mind.
Anyway, if he is anything like me, he's probably annoyed with your doubts, but wanting to prove himself so that you don't have to doubt anymore. He can probably tell more than you think he does about when you have these doubts, so you are doing good by not trying to hide them.
As for the little things, if they make you wonder, make sure you don't just ignore them. Don't be afraid to ask DIRECTLY what you are wondering, because chances are he may wonder what is bothering you, without having a clue what it is. He will be much happier, knowing how insecure you are, to be able to explain things to you than to know you are wondering about something he can't figure out what it is.
As for the pessimism, I can't help but lose even more objectivity for this part... Just wait and see how things go for now. Right now if it is just the little things and the distance, give him a chance to ease your worries a bit. Trust him enough to let him try to do that for you. Distance can be solved if you are both determined enough.
I really hope that helped. Good luck!
2007-03-04 05:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is keeping you on a string just to have someone waiting in the background for the times when he is bored. Long distance relationships very rarily work because to be in a relationship it is almost a requirement to have physical contact often to reaffirm feelings for one another. People crave intimate companionship and that means physically seeing and touching each other more than talking on the phone. Ask how many men and women in the service have had major marital problems for the same reason(many ending in divorce). My friends and I have a description for couples that spend more time on the phone than seeing each other, we call them "phone buddies". I would suggest that you start looking for someone that desires to spend physical time with you. Your across the coast buddy has more than likely already done so and you just aren't aware of it. Otherwise, who is he spending time with to have his phone shut off all of the time or not taking your calls if he is so much in love with you?
2007-03-04 05:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of he nonetheless has emotions for you. if he did he could be making each and every attempt to make it paintings back. i've got been by way of that until now and we the two desperate we mandatory to go on yet now and back talk as in a brother sister variety of way.
2016-10-02 09:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT! GET OUT! GETOUT!
2007-03-04 05:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by canadaguy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋