SO ANNOYING! What is her PROBLEM?

Question

I feel like my friend totally glosses over everything I say and always expects me to pay attention to her! Whenever I try to talk to her about guys (my b/f or guys who like me or whatever) and I ask her for advice or something really good has happened to me involving guys, she doesn't say a word. But whenever something happens to her with guys, she expects me to say, "Oh wow, that's so sweet. He's such a cool guy, that's so nice," etc.

I've had one b/f who was so nice to me, yet whenever I told her stuff about him, she wouldn't really say anything. And now I have this one who who really, REALLY likes me and whenever I talk about him, she just shrugs and says nothing. But when it comes to her and guys who like her, all she does is go on and on and expect me to say stuff.

I had one boyfriend, then the guy who likes me now (who is almost my b/f but not yet), then a couple of other guys that like me - all at the same time. I would say that my friend is jealous because I would be too.

But why does she expect me to be so happy for her when she doesn't even acknowledge good things for me?

Answer 1

depends on how often and how much you talk about guys. some people cant just be happy for their friends when good things happen cuz they are wishing that those things were happening to them. seems you answered your own question with the last line " I would say that my friend is jealous because I would be too."

Answer 2

I'd rethink whether or not she is actually a friend to you. It sounds like she may just be using you and doesn't really care about your own well-being, which isn't much of a friend. I would stop saying what she expects you to say, and maybe you should stick with some of your other friends instead.

Answer 3

To me is sounds like she wrapped up in her own little world, start giving her the answers she doesnt want to hear. Maybe that will help her realize what shes doing or just confront her about it. Maybe shes just not that good of a friend after all. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Either be open about this and tell her it bothers you OR find a new friend. She sounds like a selfish jealous stick up her *** kind of narcisstic *****.Good Luck.

Answer 5

Dear, your friend sounds like a jealous witch. I hate it when people know you are happy and are not willing to allow you to share it with them. They suck happiness out of you.

If she was my friend, she would be long gone from my friends list. If my friend is not happy for me, she might as well be gone forever for all i care.

Answer 6

She just needs support b/c her self esteem is low and she needs a boost. Some girls are like that when they are having a bad day or the whole week or month has been bad.

Answer 7

I'd say she's jealous...next time she does wut she normally does when u talk about other guys, ask her why she expects you to be happy for her when she says somethin like that, but when u do she acts like its no big deal. she's selfish, and i would just do what she does, and if she makes a huge deal about it...drop her as a friend

Answer 8

A true friend doesn't just take joy in their own situations. Apparently she is jealous. If she was a friend she would
share in your happiness.

Answer 9

well seems like she is not the friend you expect and very selfish also.the best thing to do look for some other friends to tell about things that make you happy.

Answer 10

talk to her. your friend sounds completely self-absorbed, but at least give her a chance to change her ways. make a deal that she has to listen- i mean REALLY listen- to you for at least half a hour a day. she might change.