time with me. My emails are even ignored. They are teenagers now---is this normal? My sister (their Mom) tends to treat me like a loser spinster sister who should do favors for them (her family), but what about me? This relationship is all one-sided. I've even given up my cell phone for my niece and my new computer for my nephew, but they want nothing to do with me.I've spent time off doing things with them. When I toild my niece that I loved her and was hurt, she said "tough". Am I wrong to be hurt? What should I do?
2007-03-04 05:12:25 · 18 answers · asked by Robin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, their behavior is normal. A lot of teens don't realize how hurtful they can be. Your sister isn't doing much to teach them either. She should have made sure they call you or at least, email a thank you note to you.
Quit being so generous! As awful as that sounds, these kids don't appreciate it or they would have let you know. Your niece sound like a rude little snot. To respond with "tough" when you express your love toward her is over the line.
They'll probably come around when they get older. Till then, let them know you're there and stay in touch with them. Just don't be the person they go to only when they need something.
2007-03-04 05:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First stop letting them walk all over you. Get your phone back or at least take your name off of it that isn't your responsibility. Just watch any TV judge and you will see how bad it is to have your name on ANYONE ELSES CELL PHONE. If you decided to give them the computer then its gone. Now no more gifts and quite answering the phone. Your sister needs a wake up its the real world and you are not on it to server her. Gifts for Christmas and birthdays the Auntie bank has run try and Auntie out exploring the world. Send the kids post cards but, get away from your sis and spend time on yourself. The kids probably are acting like teenagers but, if you keep letting their mom walk on you it won't ever change.
2007-03-04 13:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're being treated like a doormat because you are allowing this bunch of users to walk all over you. get a backbone for goodness sake.do no more favours for any of them.your sister has brought them up to be ungrateful and selfish human beings like herself. sorry if thats harsh but come on?? book yourself a holiday, dont tell them, take a friend or go alone. spend money pampering yourself.wake up to them now before they bleed you dry.remember the saying you can choose your friends not your family. get as far away from them as possible. change your will too leave everything to a cats home if you have to. that lot do not deserve a thing .good luck xxx
2007-03-04 13:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by kazzy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When teens get older they usually arent as close they used to be their family. When I was younger I used to be really close with my aunt and uncle. But as I got older, I had my own things to do so I didnt really go visit as much. I'd say that if your making the effort and their not. Then just forget about them for a little while and do your own things. Maybe they'll realize when youve stopped contacting them what there really missing out on. Just always stick up for your self!!! All the best!!
2007-03-04 13:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad but true! Kids in America are spoiled!!! They have everything at their fingertips and don't care about anybody else's feelings or emotions. To be honest I would let them go. I know it may be hard to do but don't sacrifice things for them if their not willing to do it for you. Try forgetting their birthdays for a couple of years. They might notice and they might not. If they don't notice you didn't forget their birthday, well their not concerned about you anyway. I know this may be hard to read but its true. Kids these days are selfish and their parents give them everything. They don't work for anything and their always expecting a hand out. So I don't blame the kids I blame the parents for allowing this to happen. Good luck!
2007-03-04 13:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to be hurt. When I was a teenager, I didnt want to hang out with adults. It just isnt "cool". If they treat you that way then it is their loss because you sound like a wonderful person. They'll grow up. I'm sorry!
2007-03-04 13:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by katie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on! Have you ever met a teenager before?? They are the most self centered beings alive. I think that you have some issues that need to be dealt with. don't give gifts if you are looking for something in return....
2007-03-04 13:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by in the know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing all the giving and they're doing all the taking. Put a stop to it right now. If they complain, tell them "tough." Life is like that sometimes.
2007-03-04 14:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go up to all 3 of them at the same time and say that you've scarificed your personal things and valuable time of your life to
have them be happy and that your treating me not very nice & that i want to be treated more like family instead of being a moocher.. Do this when you all are in the same room and make sure their listing.. and ask them why they are treating you like this.
2007-03-04 13:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by ♦Its•Possible•But•Not•Logical♦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try backing off. One of two things will happen---they'll realize they miss you from their life and want you in it without something in return OR you'll realize that you don't need them in your life to the extent that you want them in it now.
I sure hope they realize the importance of family without strings attached. Good Luck!
2007-03-04 13:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by kinzziegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋