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i just don't know if there's a man out there that will love my kids and me.i feel like i will stay alone forever.it's been 11/2 since my baby's dad left and i feel like noone is ever going to want me.

2007-03-04 04:52:18 · 27 answers · asked by *.:LALA:.* 5 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Look for a man that loves kids. Actually look for man that is single and has kids. You shouldn't give up just because you have three kids. Your baby's father is the loser for leaving. You aren't going to be alone if you don't want to be. Just be open to having a relationship with a great guy that would love you and your kids.
There are plenty of guys that are with women that have kids already and there is nothing wrong with it.

2007-03-04 04:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

You are just going to have to lower your standards a little. You probably won't get the adventurous man with supermodel looks, a great job as a surgeon and loves to cook clean and go on weekend getaways. You'll probably need to find a man who also has children. Preferably a single father with custody of his children, a not so glamourous job and average looks.

I'm NOT being rude, I'm being rational. With 3 chilldren it's going to be harder for you to find the man of your dreams than it would have been if you were not a parent because a lot of men won't want to take on the responsibility of raising someone elses 3 children.

Look on a dating site for a single father. Good luck- I hope you do find happiness and a man that will love you and your children. Lowering your standards DOES NOT means "settle". Under no circumstances should you settle for anyone who is abusive, physically or mentally, an alcoholic, or is addicted to drugs. Nor should you settle for a man without a job or who hates children....the man for you is out there...don't give up- just look somewhere different and reevaluate what you REALLY need in a partner, not what you want (supermodel looks and 6 figure job).

2007-03-04 05:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Shayna 2 · 0 0

There is someone out there for everyone. The trick is, don't seek it out. Find yourself first and love will come to you. I am also 27 and I have two children. I thought after my first daughter, that I was branded for life as a single mom and no other man would want what most call "baggage." Three years ago, however, I met a man who loved us both. We had a child together in 05 and were married this year on Valentine's day. There are still good men out there that are not gay. Don't give up!

2007-03-04 04:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by domonique_00 1 · 0 0

Not with that attitude. Just because you come with a little baggage doesn't mean you aren't deserving. Take this time to learn about yourself and spend quality time with your kids. You have the rest of your life to find Mr. Right. Just remember, the right guy will be the last guy. Have some fun until then!

2007-03-04 04:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lost girl 1 · 0 0

you are sending out "i'm desperate" vibes. get a hold of yourself. concentrate on you, maybe a new better paying career and your children's activities. what happens is.....why you are busy with your life...poof.....someone just shows up! you will be in the right place at the right time. like a soccer practice, t-ball game, at your local library for story time. these are the places you want to meet your future man. not at a club, bar...etc. what ive found is that if you did around in the trash, thats what you find, is trash. so keep your life fullfilled with your career and your kids activities and he will just pop up. believe me....he will. when you least expect it. besides, dont be so overraught you dont have a man. love yourself and realize it can be just great with you and your children. women have been conditioned for generations they need a man to be complete and thats just a bunch of bunk. but if you find you are one of those needy man wanters, then keep yourself in areas where the good ones may be lurking. a lot of single dads take their kids to different sport practices and story times, etc...dont forget the local family pizza places like chuck-e-cheese. good luck.

2007-03-04 05:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by hammy 3 · 0 0

I thought that for a very long time. Instead of looking for Mr. Right, someone who is going to love you and your children, only you will love your children the way that they are suppose to be loved, they are yours. But as for the man try Mr. Right here and right now, make the most of him. Enjoy your time away from the kids with a nice weedend away, with Mr. Right here. Enjoy each and everyone of them until Mister Wonderful suddenly appears. He maybe right before your eyes and if not enjoy dating, it gets you out the house and enjoying an adult life away from the children. This will give you a sense a time to yourself, and if nothing else a great drink, with good music. DATE

2007-03-04 05:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0 1

Girl get a grip. Somebody out there wants you!!! In the mean time work on bettering yourself!!! Stop looking for the man and let the man find you!!!! You get a better deal that way. In my experience when we women go to find a man we get the sh** at the bottom of the barrel!!! Don't worry he'll get there eventually.

2007-03-04 05:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Miss G. H. Etto 2 · 0 0

Three ankle biters is a problem ,one that you may be able to over come if your hot .You might want to start going to expensive bars where dr, lawyers hang out because a regular joe cant efford a baby factory like you .You said 1 1/2 is that yrs or months

2007-03-04 04:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by maxiumdamage 2 · 0 0

Someone will. Sometimes things happen that make you feel unwanted. This has happened to everyone. Pick out a new feller to date...who is not only good to you, but good to your kids as well. Don't play games with him...just allow him to love you all. Best wishes. NEVER GIVE UP.

2007-03-04 04:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by Forgotten Man 2 · 0 0

Don't give up!! My brother married a girl with 5 children, they are still married 15 years later.

2007-03-04 04:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0 0

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