adults seem to always think they know everything about love and most do and teens just always fall into lust. like me for instance im 13. im very mature trust me. i dont believe in having sex in this age cause its not nessesary.mainly sex is for reproduction not only for pleasure. i get almost straight A's in school, i go to a well educated highschool have a gpa of 3.8. its not fair that when i actually know that im in love they say its too early for me to feel like this, come on im going to be an adult the next 4 years.how can it be too early for me to fall in love if know im in love. majority of teens fall into lust but a few know true love. yes im not too young to think like this cause its preparaton and when im about 25 or older i might get married and have a family of my own. i know most of you think minors dont know anything about love because when you guys were our ages you thought you were in love but you got crushed. well im not a 5 month relationship person
2007-03-04 04:52:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because the word love is nebulous.
You say your in love. Your describing a feeling. Perhaps a more apt description would be an intense physical and or emotional attraction to another person.
They say love and mean something else entirely. They mean an attraction that has lasted and will continue to last for a considerable time, coupled with the emotional and cynical maturity to not only make the right decision but accept the consequences of that decision.
Who's to say which definition is the correct one? Ultimatly if it's merely a discussion of that point, then it doesn't matter. However it's not for them.
They don't want you to do things they would see as mistakes. They don't want you to make decisions based on that feeling instead of based on reasoning and sound judgement. An example of this would be they don't want you to decide your in love, sleep with that person, get knocked up (insert the last half 30 minutes of your favorite afterschool cautionary movie here). Other examples of decisions that many young people make for love that are generally not the best of moves would be moving in with each other, moving across country, getting married, etc, etc.
If you are as mature as you describe yourself to be, then you will understand all this and will avoid making those mistakes. Sure, lots of people get married as soon as it's legal for them to do so. A few of those marriages even work out. Most don't though, and it's a decision that will effect your entire life from now untill your death (which could easily be 60 or more years from now). They just want what is best for you and they think they know what that is. They might be right, and they might be wrong, but it's based in love for you. And that particular love is much easier to define although in practice can be both a good and a bad thing.
When they say you are to young to fall in love, they simply mean they feel you are not logically or emotionally mature enough to make decisions that can effect your entire life, and they would really prefer you just avoid the situation entirely.
2007-03-04 05:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by haveahellofaniceday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here it is from adult point of view. I can remember that feeling, and I believed it was love at that time in my life too. It's something that comes to you as you are growing up more. You are going to believe what you believe until you live it. There is alot that is going to happen between 13 and 18 years of age. I am 10 yrs older than my sister and watched her high school relationship. She is 28 now, but I was in my 20's when she was your age. She dated this guy from 8th grade to the year after graduation, they thought it would last forever, but things change. People go off to college, you turn 21 and start going out, meeting new people you never met. They grew apart, they are still friends actually, but didn't stay together. I do know the "dating scene" has changed since I grew up, because my first car date was not allowed till I was 16 although my parents gave in a few months early. I never had sex till after I was 18, because I really believed you saved yourself for marriage. Things change the older you get. But really the "love" thing will never change. The girls will believe it's real when they are younger because girls do mature faster than guys (normally). If you are one of the VERY FEW who have a relationship last the rest of your life from the age of 13, then I say good for you! That's wonderful, but don't bank on it. You got ALOT of years ahead of you.
2007-03-04 05:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a point...and no it's not too early because after all doesn't love creep up on you when you least expect it? But instead of arguing with your parents about it just drop the subject for now. Keep on seeing your boyfriend but don't try to emphasize to your parents how much you love him...they might not understand at the moment...and maybe a year or two down the road if you are still with this guy have this conversation with them again...this will show them that are you are mature enough to handle long term relationships and that what you feel for this guy is genuine. Good luck! =D ^_^
2007-03-04 06:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by May 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust me adults know more then you do no matter how mature u are. they have past your age and are more experieced in this field. if you think you are in love and try to be in a relationship, believe me, the GPA that u are getting will drop. at the age of 13 its not love it is a mere attraction and that attraction might bring disaster in the future. i would recommend that u have fun during the teenage yrs and then when r u in 10th grade or somthing then think about being in a relationship. Good Luck and enjoy ur life.
2007-03-04 05:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by The Dude 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because we are teens and they think that we dont know anything about love or a relationship so thats why when some people say they have a boyfriend and they only 13 teen they will say oh thats not your boyfriend he just a friend and matter of fact they will say what do u know about love you dont know nothing so how are you going to have a boyfriend
2007-03-04 04:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 17 so im kinda bothy teen/adult in my eyes bc my mom doesent really do a whole lot for me (trying to prepair me for life) but anyways i say lust and love are very similar things....lust is what ppl think "love" is early in a relationship...love is the "lust" feeling you have but only for a long time and then it changes to where not only do you get the "feeling" just by being around them but just by the fact that you are with that person...right now im in a 6 month relationship and we both belive we are in love so i say in your situation follow your heart
2007-03-04 04:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I am mature too, they just don't remember what love was like at age 13 but I don't blame them but some I do. I don't like it when they say to grow up on one of your answers. Well, we can't just 'grow up' it takes years.
2007-03-04 04:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your problem. You know what is going on. Some boys may come and go or you may marry your high school swet heart. Just be yourself and be happy.
2007-03-04 04:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is love ?? What is your definition of love ?? Yes you can be in love ?? Figure this out and you will gain the 2% in your GPA.
2007-03-04 04:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋