I just changed personals sites after being on another for some time and meeting alot of guys but not the one. I have been a member for 2 days and have had 60 men look at my profile. Many of them seem interesting and are attractive but they only ones that are leaving me a message are the ones with beards (I mention in my ad that I don't like beards), rednecks, biker guys, and generally unattractive or too old for me. I just can't see myself being attracted to these guys. They are just not my type, and alot of them are smokers although I mention wanting a nonsmoker. Why can't I get the interesting guys that are attractive, have little baggage, like travel just like I do, and are a little sophisticated? I'm not into the country boy type. Should I send messages to the men that I find interesting? I try to be open minded but there are just some things that can't be overlooked. Does anyone else have a problem with not getting the ones you want to respond?
2007-03-04 04:39:18 · 5 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Without actually seeing your ad, I can't truly tell what's wrong. How do you come off in your 'about me' section? Are you perhaps being too picky or too vague with what you want? Do you have flatting pictures of yourself (in different settings) posted? I've been there done that with the internet dating thing and learned that there's more bad than good and you just have to be patient and you may even want to respond back to the ones that do contact you to say thanks but no thanks. I have had too many contact me that were much older than what I was looking for, some not quite divorced, sharing none of my interests, different lifestyle than I'm used to etc. Most understood when I said thanks but no thanks, but some did get nasty (which really means they are poor pathetic individuals who will message any woman thinking that just because she is on one of those sites, she's desparate...far from the truth). Funny thing...my boyfriend (soon to be fiance) originally contacted me through one of those websites and I ignored him. He found me on my friend's myspace page and after a few messages back and forth, I invited him for drinks with a friend and me an we've been together ever since.
Question for you though...are you waiting for them to find you or have you taken any initiative in making first contact?
2007-03-04 04:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact some of the ones you are interested in first. There are some who just are too shy to talk first...if you show some interest, they may just show it back. I've been doing the online thing about a year now...different sites as well. Don't be afraid to contact them first. If they don't respond, then just move on. (I seem to attract older guys for some reason even though I specifically state not over 40, I think alot go by pics and don't even read the profile). It's not that easy to find "the one", believe me. Good luck!
2007-03-04 04:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't really like personal sites...i think the best way is to meet someone face to face and get to know them.
2007-03-04 04:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rafael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient! The right guy will come along!
2007-03-04 04:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Trapped in a Box 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you contacted me? triumphtey@yahoo.com
2007-03-04 04:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋