We've been together for years and he was my first love.I don't think I could ever love a man the way I love him but I'm so heart broken that he would ever do this to me.We've talked on the phone and he promises that he would never do it again.But I'm too afraid that he will.What would you do if you were in this situation?
2007-03-04 04:34:26 · 15 answers · asked by DiamondXxx 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As usual with people from the outside looking in its easy to say No I would never etc. etc. But the fact is unless put in that situation its hard to truely say how you'd react. The fact that he was willing to jeopordize you two realtionship is the worst. It will be hard for you to let that go but the question you need to ask yourself is can you truely forgive him? If you cant then dont take him back because it will be horrible and the realtionship will be filled with distrust which leads to insecurities and everything else goes down hill.
2007-03-04 05:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by virgofortune 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. The circumstances were a little different. Once a cheater always a cheater. Also remember people can change for the better. I chose to stay with my love and it has been 4 years with no problems. If you decide to stay with him, you will have to FORGIVE him and start fresh. I personally check up on my man. If you decide to move on with your life, I promise there is someone out there just for you. Remember, it does not matter what other people think. It is going to be your decision that matters, because you are the one that has to live with it.
2007-03-04 12:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by dchandler1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still interested in him, I would insist upon couples counseling. For a long while before you get married.
On the other hand, once the trust is gone, it's nearly impossible to get it back. It will take a lot of work for both of you.
Only you can decide if it's worth it.
My two cents? You sound young. You will find deep love again --with someone who wants to commit to you.
Let him go.
Good luck. And remember: this, too, shall pass.
2007-03-04 12:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie, I have been there with my ex husband. I too thought I would never love a man as I loved him, and with two young kids who would want me but I was wrong as a year after I left him I met the most wonderful man and I am happily married to him and have two more wonderful kids. When my ex cheated on me he too promised that he would not do it again but I believe once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better and believe me there are plenty of men out there who are faithful. You deserve better. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-03-04 12:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's going to have to be your personal choice on whether or not you can trust him again. From my own experience, I would not trust someone who could do that to me. He had already made a committment to you by getting engaged to you and broke that one. I wouldn't trust him to keep that in a marriage. I am sure there are some people out there who would change over this so I can't tell you for sure what to do. My own personal experience, I have taken someone back who has said that and did it again. So, I just don't trust someone who can do that once. Good luck!
2007-03-04 12:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of interaction between people has been common since the Middle Ages. Some men would take on three or four wives because he needed the adventure.
2007-03-04 12:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO WAY, what makes you think that if he did it when you were engaged that he wont do it when you are married? What happens if you have children, and then he finds a woman that he likes and leaves you all alone with the kids what would do then, so if your contemplating giving him another chance, dont do it, itll be the biggest mistake of your life.... good luck hope i helped you.
2007-03-04 12:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by watergoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your too young to be engaged. Live for a while before settling down. You should BOTH take time in fact. Get it out of your systems.
2007-03-04 12:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Sorry, but it has been my experience that once they cheat- they'll do it again. And you will always harbour a slight distrust of him, regardless of how much you try to tell yourself and him that you trust him. You will always wonder where he is, what he's doing, and it will end up collapsing your relationship. You will get over him....it will take time- but you will.
2007-03-04 12:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by SheDevilBelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, I'd rather dance my way through Hell, very slowly, before I take a cheater back into my life.
Keep him away of you, and find someone who loves you every new day more than he did yesterday.
Good luck!
2007-03-04 12:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋