life for me and my family has been hard to say the least, over the last few years. i was abused when i was little and finally made a statement to the police. now im just waiting on the barrister letting me know if i have a case to take to the courts. i have struggled with depression for many years but the last few were very bad. i tried to take my own life on a number of occasions. luckily im still here and am awaiting allocation of a community psych nurse. i have been feeling ok lately but now i know a decision is near im starting to feel frightened of what is to come. how i will feel if it doesnt go to court and how will i feel if it does go to court. im drinking quite a bit more than usual, just at night time, to help me chill out. i know i shouldnt be as im on medication but at the minute i feel that i cant really do without it. has anyone else been in this situation????????
2007-03-04 04:32:49 · 7 answers · asked by franstyson 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Someone i know has just got the result that her abuser is going to court, this all happened over 40 years ago, but the abused person has spent her life blocking it out, to go to counselling about depression and anxiety for all of this to come out, she has hidden it so long. Has now gone to the police, told her family, finally told her husband of many many years,
She doesn't know how to feel, this person spent time 'grooming' her, she is very confused to what feelings have surfaced, but she is getting through, and has made this move before this abuser and his wife who knew it was happening, had died 'innocent in the eyes of the law' The abuser & his wife should pay for what they did, if the court case doesn't happen for you, as i said to the victim i know, the abusers will know they didn't quite get away with it, as they will be questioned, statements and fear will creep into them, they will know it was never kept their secret, be looking over their shoulder. if it goes to court and the abuser (s) get put away, justice will be done.
Either way you are innocent,and the person who did this to you will have had a shock and scare that you have the strength to try to get them in court.
So yes, others have been in this situation, but drink isn't the answer, medication should help you cope, if its not, then see the GP so you get something stronger to help you through this hard time in your life.
Good Luck and STAY STRONG, dont let the B*stards grind you down...
2007-03-04 10:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was abused and didn't have the sense or the guts to do anything until I finally went to uni and then left home (and the country). Be encouraged that even though you say you have tried to take your life, you also say "Luckily I'm still here." If you can feel glad you're still alive, YES there is light at the end of the tunnel--and it is not an oncoming train.
Good luck with the court case. Distance yourself from your abusers. Don't expect an admission of guilt or an apology. If you get one, great, but most abusers never ever admit their guilt, or if they do they try to put it off on the victim as "making" them do it. Don't believe it. Make a new life for yourself.
Be careful mixing alcohol and meds, you don't want to end up in a coma, or have the opposite side's barristers use this against you as evidence that you are "unstable" and not to be believed. Listen to chill music, talk to good friends (about something else), do something creative. Drink isn't the answer.
You've done well to get this far, don't sabotage your future.
2007-03-04 04:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by anna 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am really moved by your question. You have had a lot of bad luck. A previous answerer has given you a excellent reply. The only thing I can add to it is to ride the storm, and get stronger from your experiences. A good book "A Road Less Travelled" by Scott Peck may help you come to terms with your problems. May be you can find it from the library. Meanwhile, try to find someone who can care and love you. If this is a counsellor, that is OK, just so you are not alone. I will be thinking of you and good luck.
2007-03-04 06:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you are getting counseling too. I attended a support group for incest victims for a couple of years, (moderated by a counselor) and found that more helpful than anything. Maybe there is something like that in your community. I ended up with bipolar, which maybe I would have gotten that anyway, but because of the abuse, it's very bad. Still, the meds help, and the abuse issues don't get to me very often anymore.
All the best to you
2007-03-04 04:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is hope. i was at rock bottom due to marraige break-up. i attempted suicide and hit the bottle as well. i saw no reason to go on.that was six years ago.i have since met a wonderful girl and have a lovely 4 year old son.life couldnt be better.life throws a lot of things at you and things can get better. there is always hope.
2007-03-04 04:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you well! If the 'accused' does not apologise to you......then please let me apologise on their behalf, you do need to hear the word 'sorry' from someone.
If you can, could you manage to get yourself a copy of 'The Secret' DVD? It is an excellent DVD and I am sure it will help to towards a better life, which is out there for you.
2007-03-04 05:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by xanthones43 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I havent been through what you have but i felt like i just had to say my thoughts are with you and i hope someone out there can really help you. mt heart goes out to you
2007-03-04 04:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by kate seasider 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋