I recently started taking RAD, the women's self-defense school. I live with my boyfriend, who is into martial arts (it was his idea that I take a self-defense class). He asked what kind of things they were teaching me, because he said that he was curious.
They told us not to share anything with men, so I told him I wasn't allowed to discuss it. He seemed really surprised, and he asked if I trusted him. I tried to explain that I was just not allowed to talk about it. He said he was okay with that, but I can tell that he's upset. He usually doesn't express himself that easily, but I've known him long enough that I can tell by how he acts. I think that his feelings are hurt.
I really do trust him. He's a great guy and he's never treated me poorly. So should I just share the stuff with him so he knows that I trust him?
2007-03-04 04:32:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like this class is teaching you that men are the enemy because you go home to your guy and imress what you learned on him.....just as your instructor told you..just becuase it's a self defense class, doesn't mean it's founded on principles healthy for your relationship. I would think twice about what your instructors are really teaching......
2007-03-11 19:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by BS2NITE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the subject comes up again just maybe tell him some things about it but dont go into details after all its self defense u may never know when or with whom u will need it
2007-03-04 12:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by linda h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him. He probably feels really bad that you don't trust him & that you think he might turn abusive one day possibly. However, it is your decision! remember that. If he's already into martial arts he already has some moves anyway.
2007-03-04 12:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by beauty&brains 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey, he should respect the fact that you cannot tell him what goes on in the classes. if it's not anything major, just karate or something, you should go ahead and tell him. but if it's something you don't feel comfortable talking about, just keep hammering it into his head that you can't tell him. he should get it.
2007-03-04 12:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by fab expert101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Share it with him, absolutely. You should be able to tell him anything. They just don't want it to become common knowledge. If it's bugging him, that means it's important to him.
2007-03-04 12:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lost girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who r they do what u feel is right be careful tho
2007-03-12 04:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by crengle60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋