me and my bf are both 18 we havent had sex but are these signs he wants a baby
naming his future kids
saving for kids future
looking at 2 bedroom flats to move into
calling me up when he out and sees a cute baby
telling me the words im pregnant he is dying to hear from me
say things like paul (one of the names he has picked) better not do stuff like that when he grows up
rubs my belly and places his head on it
telling me his mum and him have been talking about what age she wants to be a grandparent
telling me im gonna make a great parent
describing what he thinks the baby will look like
should i talk to himabout this if yes how
if it turns out he wants a kid soon i wont be having sex with him fora while and when i do im gona make sure i take as much protection as possible as im too young to be a mum
2007-03-04 04:23:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wanna get through uni first and get married and make sure i have the money to support the child and give it the stuff it needs
2007-03-04 04:42:04 · update #1
im not gonna leave him as i love him to pieces and we are gonna be engaged soon
2007-03-04 04:45:51 · update #2
You THINK he wants a baby? Well he frickin sounds like he does! while i agree that 18 is too young for both of y'all, The question is: if you cant see yourself with him in the long run, like having kids in the future, then why are you with him? Ask yourself that and then if the answer is "yes i want to be with him", tell him that you are not ready YET
2007-03-04 04:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Are you sure that this isn't a ploy to get into your pants?
Most guys run like hell when a girl gets pregnant.Also , asses how mature he behaves in adult situations, You could be dealing with a serious case of Mamma's boy or a nut, or both.
It kind of sounds like you haven't been dating very long, since he has no clue that you are far from ready to consider marraige and a family.
I would definately step up and let him know how I stand. His reaction to that could give you some of Idea of his Mental Stability. It just sounds kinda wierd to me! If he loves you he would want to bring a child into the world where both prents are ready to make that commitment.
Children are suppose to be a reflection of love, that we wan't to share with that special person that makes you a whole, but more often. children want to have children in order to get Love..
And they end up finding out, that love is sacrifice, Being a mother is being the sole caregiver, all attention had to be focused on that small helpless spirit that cannot care for itself...I don't think your young man is ready ..I mean Really ready for that...
HAve him baby sit a toddler for about a week, that will help him see things as they are.
Good Luck!.
2007-03-04 04:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by iwild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him your not ready for a relationship right now and that children are out of the question. You have a life ahead of you. This guy sounds like he's looking for love in a baby. Sounds like he may have some serious issues. He has to set his priorities in order. Imagine if you give him a baby, then where do you stand? You will always have to take the back seat. Good thing you haven't had sex with him. And keep it that way. Get rid of this guy. Don't ruin your life. Look for a mature man that doesn't want to play house. Good Luck!
2007-03-04 04:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definintely sounds like he does. You need to say something to him and let him know you are not ready for that at this point in your life. He may think he is but really 18 is very young to start a family. (although it does work for some people--but both people have to want it). If he truly wants this and you take precautions behind his back when you do start having sex with him, that could be a big issue too. Be honest and upfront about it. If you are on two separate pages then it's better to find out now before you go any further with him. After you have had sex with someone you really care about, it's alot harder when you break up.
2007-03-04 04:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, take care! No matter how much he seems to want a baby, if he changes his mind after you fall pregnant, he can walk away, but you won't be able to!
Maybe the 'old fashioned' idea of getting married is still a good one! Besides, I enjoyed the romantic stuff of flowers, dances, and Valentines! Getting engaged, then married, is still something most people want to do, before they have families. You need to make sure he will look after you when you really need it, like when you are too pregnant to work, and afterwards, when the baby needs you to look after him/her.
Anyway, good luck, and I hope this helps!!!
2007-03-04 04:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by fandoogly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely, positively must talk to him!!! This is not something to tread lightly over. I had my first child at 19 for the love of my life. 3 weeks after I found out i was pregnant, he left me. I haven't seen him since. It's YOUR life and YOUR body. This is not something you can take back later, this is a life long commitment that you both have to be ready for, and at 18, you aren't. I'm sure you love hearing that but please please please take my advice and tell him you aren't ready. Get on birth control now. Just in case. And supply your own condoms. If he's not convinced, all it takes is a pin prick in a condom. It's unlikely but it's been done before. Good luck and stay safe.
2007-03-04 04:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lost girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, having kids is such a huge step where there is no going back after it. I think you should talk to him about this and make sure he understands that both of you are very young to start taking responsibilities early on your lives.
Enjoy life!
2007-03-04 04:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i go with the other people. its good you want to get married first. then wait a couple years i would suggest so you can ejoy each other before you do it. My friends mom had a baby when she was 15!! Her mom did not tell her nothing about that stuff so she did not know what she was doing so i think you r smart like me.
2007-03-04 05:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Erica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont need to be with him right now cuz it sounds like he is crazy. If he wants children tell him he has to wait. Have children is lifelong thing, and even though he says he is, I really dont think he is ready for a baby. U need to talk to him and get things straight.
2007-03-04 04:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better let him know you're too young and don't want a baby, so he can get out of that fixation before he ruins his relations with you.
Don't hold back sex, but DO get on the pill.
2007-03-04 04:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋