I am a 15 year old girl. I have a 4.0 gpa in school. I play softball volleyball and i also play basketball. I have also been an ice skater for 12 years. I am from a perfect little town in Chicago. I am outgoing sensative and sweet to all people. When i am older i want to be a nurse and go to Northwestern. I would like to get a scholarship off of music. I have been playing the viola for 6 years and i am looking to play when i am older. I have won many awards from the mayor and the town for being a good person(nominated from tearchers at school). I have a loving boyfriend. And a lot of friends but i have about 2 really true good friends. Many of the guys that i go for are the ones that are quiet. I like those types because there not the jerk kinds. My life is basically perfect. But thats the thing......Its not. My parents got divorced when i was 14.I felt scared and i felt it was my fault. But I am a strong girl so i moved on and now i am ok. My stepdad left my mom last Fri.Why me?
2007-03-04 04:11:07 · 25 answers · asked by sweet and simple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It has nothing to do with you !
Most parents would love to have a good kid like you, who has so many talents, a good head on your shoulders, and most importantly, has a good grasp on the future.
Keep your future in mind, do as you are doing. The adults are the ones who have issues that they can't seem to work out.
2007-03-04 05:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by PH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ! sweet and simple
I am from India where divorce is still considered a taboo subject. my parents fight all the time and most of the time i end up defending one or the other. I think that they are together just because everyone around them is or they are too scared of what others will say. Sometimes things get so difficult that a wish i was never even born. i always end up asking the same question why me ? Is it my fault ? It took me some time to realize that it is not. All i can say is that whatever happened between Ur mother and stepfather is not ur fault. Maybe they will find someone better in the future. I know that u are going through tough time separation is always difficult on the children . But believe me when i say that if they stay together just for the sake of living together they will get miserable and bitter. But i still pray that they forget their differences and reconcile. Just hold on u know that u are strong. Best of luck for your future. If u feel like talking to anybody u can e-mail me. Take care.
2007-03-04 04:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Shikha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Heart it is not you. Do not even let that thought dwell in your mind. Children do not understand that when the adults can not make it and give up trying for what ever reason it is not the child's fault and ANY parent who even suggests it is needs their head examined.
You have a bright future ahead of you and even though there seems to be trials occurring around you, please do not let them affect your future.
Look into some counseling or a mentor who you can confide in and who you respect. It will assist you in getting things put into their proper place and you will be happier for it.
Also, do not ever think that just because you come from a broken home, so to speak, that you will never have a true chance in a relationship. Relationships take A LOT of work and are well worth it when the kids are grown and grand kids are there to visit and you and your mate have time to enjoy life to it's fullest.
Take care and God Bless you.
2007-03-04 04:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all *hugs* that really sucks. Its hard enough dealing with growing up and being a teenager, but on top of that two sets of divorced parents, I know it gets hard to cope. And I have a feeling that you think this is partly your fault too...that if you had done something differently, things wouldn't be this way...but don't blame yourself - this has nothing to do with you. Your parents and your mom and your stepdad have their have their own problems seperate from you...problems in personality/love/relationship/trust/etc...and I think even if they choose not to live with each other or love each other they're still going to love you the same...if not more. So don't lost hope...good things will always come =] good luck!
2007-03-04 04:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by May 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because relationships aren't always perfect. Adults don't always get along well enough to live around eachother. Compromise runs out and hurtful words replace it. When your parents got divorced, it was not your fault. Life is full of problems. The trick is, to figure out the best solutions to suit you. You were a strong girl once..stay that way and live your life. Be supportive of your mother, but don't ruin your own life trying to solve her problems. Best wishes.
2007-03-04 04:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about you sweetie. It's about your mom and stepdad. It's really hard for kids (and 15 is still a kid) to understand why adults make the choices they do. I'm sure it had nothing to do with you.
You wound like a strong, kind, young lady. Use this strength to support your mom. She probably needs it. Keep doing what you're doing. Any parent would be proud to have a daughter like you.
2007-03-04 04:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you have a good head on your shoulders with the school work and the extra activities. Sometimes bad things happen between parents and you should NEVER blame yourself. Try to be supportive of your mom cuz shes got to be hurting too. But rember, you are her child and cant take responsibility for her happiness, just be there for her. Keep up with your schooling and you can go to whatever college you want to.
2007-03-04 04:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because nothing can stay perfect for very long. where there is good, there will always be bad. its all part of life's balance. your perfect in everything else so life said well since we have a balance going on here there has to be a bad part in your life because no gets to live a perfect life. so it hit your weak spot. your parents got divorced twice. hard to believe i know but after a while u realize its true.
2007-03-04 04:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Titus M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault you cannot control what is happening in the world. There are people that are much worse off than you. I feel for you, I have been through the broken family bit myself and it is not fun. Just try and find that happiness within that is where it lies.
Just keep going you are doing great. Keep your head up and a smile on your face. Just keep being yourself. You are loved and that is all that matters.
2007-03-04 04:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by krazyinchicago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, its adults!
That's what happens i'm afraid. Do not blame yourself, think about your poor old mom! She's the one suffering.
My daughter is 14 and I split with her mom 4 years ago.I consider myself very luck because we see each other every wkend and we're just like mates!
Her mom has a boyfriend now, and they get on well so far. But if they split my daughter won't blame herself.It's just a fact of life. It happens. Just support your mom and get on with your fantastic life. Would you prefer to be a starving baby in Africa withou out any parents?
You're a lucky girl.....
2007-03-04 04:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by declanwoz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋