I fell in love with my classmate (emotionally) but only after getting some hints from her showing she was interested in me. I realise what I experienced is infatuation and not love still after some days I heard a rumour about her marriage and I felt terrible pain. Those who have felt only they can realise this. Now I cannot control my mind by explaining that what had happened is a case of infatuation and not love so I should not have such pain etc..but I still continuously think of her and can not wipe her out of mind. Why does my reasoning can not solve the problem? what should I do?
2007-03-04 03:37:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You waited too long to try to act on your true feelings. You tend to overthink things. Have you ever had a moment where you just threw caution to the wind and tried something for no reason? Let it go in love and you'll feel so much better.
2007-03-04 03:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotion (lust, violence, fear, et.al.) are controlled by the most primative part of the brain. It's called the Reptilian Complex, because this part of the brain first showed up in reptiles. Being ruled by emotion has been a successful strategy for millions of years. Run when you see the tiger, mate when you have the opportunity, and defend your stuff against others are probably the most important things that you will ever do. Logic came later and is not as well established in our brains.
You will get over it in time. It is one of those things that makes you an adult. And remember that love is just lust misspelled.
2007-03-04 11:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Dan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your emotions are controlled by a totally different portion of the brain, just because you may have a high intelligence in logic does not mean you can control how you feel about someone, but even thinking about the reasoning for your emotions just shows your exxagerated feelings of passion for another person. its more of an issue with your emotional development (which is controlled by your amygdala) then logical
2007-03-04 11:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by CarlosDeLargos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the peculiarity of the human mind. Reasoning will fail to alleviate the pain. Only time will heal it.
2007-03-04 12:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz emotions are not a scientific querrel which we can reason and answer, to answer ur emotions u need to agree with ur HEART, MIND AND SOUL.
just once ask ur inner self that does ur HEART, MIND AND SOUL agree with eachother!! if yes then in just 1 or 2 days u'll forget her but if ur heart, mind and soul donot agree with eachother then u need to sign a agreement with them and make them understand the logic!!!
ALL THE BEST!!!
2007-03-04 13:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals up everything.May be someone else is made 4 u
2007-03-08 06:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by siri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋