Heres the story. I met this guy about 2 weeks ago at college, he asked for my phone number, but I only gave him my e-mail and instant message name to contact me. We have been talking via e-mail and aim a lot. Then he asked me out, and we made plans to watch a movie. Then all of sudden, that night were suppose to go to the movies, he tells me that he wants us to go out somewhere thats closer for him. Believe it or not, he tells me he would prefer for us to watch a movie in his car, so he could talk to me while were watching the movie. Then he got upset with me bc I have not given him my number, and he said that he doesnt want to meet up with me, if he doesnt have my number. I want to get to know him before i give him my number. Am I the one causing the chaos?? I really like him too.
2007-03-04 03:31:07 · 14 answers · asked by Lisa R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, this isn't wrong.
Giving him only your email is fine. Obviously you don't feel comfortable enough with him to give him your phone number so why would you, right?
Wait until you know him better before you give him your phone number because a friend of mine met a guy and gave him her number and then he called her literally 600 times a day. He would call and wait until her phone went to voice mail and then call right back over and over again. She had to change her number.
Also, watching a movie in his car so he can talk to you is just so he can initiate intimacy with no one else around. And if you're not comfortable enough to even give him your phone number... don't fall for this. If he wants to talk to you after a movie, meet him there and walk to a coffee shop afterwards and talk there.
2007-03-04 03:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when is watching a movie in his car a date? Sounds pretty uncomfortable to me...
Either this guy doesn't want to spend $$ on you or he's got an ulterior motive.
You've done the right thing by holding back your phone #. If you think you might be interested, ask him for his phone #. That way you can call if YOU'RE interested.
Personally, I think you should be careful about this guy. He says one thing and does another. Not a great "first date". If he wants to get to know you, he can take you out for a cup of coffee or a meal.
2007-03-04 03:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your actions are OK. Some will say you are being to difficult and will never get a relationship this way. I think you are being very careful, and in today's world that is a GOOD THING.
If the guy doesn't 'get it' then you have not lost much, let him go his way. Personally, I would only go out with a 'stranger' to public places, like dining out or a fairly 'tame' club where YOU have some one around YOU know.
Keep your guard up, a man worth having should admire your caution and concern, as he will be more interested in your well being than he is in meeting his own desires.
2007-03-04 03:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Blitzpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely not wrong. I met this guy at school and he was a senior and i didn't really know him and i made the mistake of giving him my number that day and he had called me three times in one night and then the next day he called and i told my mom to just tell him i wasn't home so she told him i was at the store and he asked for the number of the store i was at! You better get to know this guy first to make sure he's not some freak stalker.
2007-03-04 03:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK if you feel in your gut not to trust him,then do not!always go with this gut feeling! an for him to get upset this easy is a sure sign of abuse that is headed your way,do not walk run! an for him to ask you to meeting him closer to his home and then good grief"he says lets watch a movie in his car,that tells me he is cheap and a looser,and he thinks you are that desperate to want a date,do yourself a fave Hun and dump this man,there are better trust me
2007-03-04 03:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are very smart! Whether you like him or not, you absolutely have the right to decide whether and when you feel comfortable giving out you phone #. It's not like he can't get in touch with you! Frankly, if I were you I'd be doing the very same thing. He sounds a bit controlling, even if he's cute and interesting.
2007-03-04 03:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Holly R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this guy sounds a bit dodgy. what's his obsession over having your number... and the movie in the car thing isn't right. he'd do better taking you to a film, i wouldn't trust him... i think you've been right to not give your number to him. sounds like a jerk to me. Good luck with finding a better man next time who respects your right to hold off giving your number till you feel ready to. xx
2007-03-04 03:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Angelic Julie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i be responsive to a guy like that! he could meet a marvelous lady, and then afterwards bypass on a date. talk for hours and hours and hours and not make a flow. the girl gets snug and thinking right here's a guy who's involved in ME and not my physique. then basically in the previous he leaves, makes his flow, bang the chick finished night ... and on no account touch her back. he's grooming you.
2016-09-30 04:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even read the rest after the question because the answer is "no". It is not wrong to protect yourself until you feel comfortable with someone.
Ok.. now I've read it and my answer doesn't change.
2007-03-04 03:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by chanteuse87 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not wrong. Unless, it's just your cellphone number(you can give it then). If he annoys you, change it.
2007-03-04 03:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by nausea guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋