Recently my 5 year old daughter wants to kiss people on the lips. How do I handle this?

Question

My husband tells her kissing on the lips is for married people who love each other. My MIL kisses her on the lips all the time. I feel it is ok between a parent and child. We have always kissed her on the cheek but she sees us kiss and now she will grab us by the face and pull us so she can try to kiss us on the lips. How should I handle this?

I dont think I put the ? in here right. What I am trying to handle is a way to explain to her so she doesnt have 3 diffrent reasons floating inside her head. Should I just says daddy's only kiss mommies that way? I have kissed my daughter on the lips I just dont make a habit of it because of germs. She gets lots of hugs and kisses. I am wondering if she is doing this because she will be having a baby brother in July. Hoping that clears things up.

Answer 1

I tell my children that kissing on the lips is for family...mom, dad, etc...and kissing on the cheek is for everyone else...daycare provider, friends..try not to focus to much if she slips and kisses someone on the lips..just correct her...ask her if the person is family or friend...let her figure out for herself...and then you'll know if she knows the difference...hope this makes sense and helps
with my family we always kiss each other on the lips but its my family....

Answer 2

Your daughter seems like she is going through a very affectionate stage, which is normal for young children. Let her know about the germs that are spread through kissing people on the lips, because if you don't, then she will likely kiss friends on the lips much the same way one would hug another person. With cold and flu season still around, it's important she realizes that people can spread germs by kissing very easily. Thank you for the question. :)

Answer 3

Let her! She sees you kiss that way and she just wants to be able to show her love for you in the same way. It would be like you rejecting her if you do not allow her to do the same thing she sees you doing. I have 3 daughters and all 3 of them went through this phase. My youngest is actively exploring it now! It's actually funny because she kisses me on the lips and even moves her head from side to side to simulate a long kiss. Her father and I just kind of giggle and tell her she's silly. It passes, as long as you don't make a big deal about it. If you draw attention to it negatively (telling her only grownups do it) then she will be trying to act it out more and then you will have a problem on your hands once she's elementary school age!! Good luck and no worries, it passes!!:)

Answer 4

I would keep telling her it is only for married people and people in your family. Ask your MIL to have the same discussion with her.

I don't think it's a terrible thing, but there's a lot of bacteria and virus exchange and the kissing of babies and small children is why 90% of amercians have herpes I (coldsores) by the time they're 18. She'll probably grow through the phase. You could also try talking to her about germs and such.

Answer 5

I would talk to your mother-in-law about this.I am sure if you ask her to give cheek kisses she will oblige!

Your daughter is imitating what she sees and does not yet understand what is and is not appropriate. It is good to show affection in front of your children, but keep teaching her what is appropriate.

I would go with your husband and teach her that kissing on the lips is for married people who love each other. Not that there is anything wrong with a kiss on the lips from mommy to daughter, but there is less risk of confusion if you set clear, simple rules.

Answer 6

The examples you are showing your daughter will naturally influence her.Children love to imitate. The only solution to this is to tell your child to be careful in kissing people on the lips because there are deseases that can transfer to her. So she has to be careful and maybe it would be better if she definitely avoid it and a kiss on the cheeks will do.

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Answer 8

It's a phase she's going through. Other than reminding her that lip kissing is just for family, I wouldn't give it too much attention. When she sees that you're not worried about it, she'll probably give you cheek kisses and lip kisses as she feels like it. She just wants to know that she's as special to you as you are to each other.

Answer 9

first congrats to you and your family,i think id try to stick what dad said,then talk about germs to,but Y'it it could be the new baby coming to, my daughter did something really neat with her son when she was pregnant with her daughter, she included him in everything, the baby shower, he got gifts for him and his sister, he opened them,he got to feel the baby move, both grandmas made him feel it was cool to have a sister, even his teacher and classmates were in on it, to make the change go easy, he went to hospital when his sister was born, got to see her and hold her, everyone took tons of pictures, at school the day she was born, the teacher informed the class Anthony had a new sister, and the whole class stood and clapped.dint know if all that story helps any at all, good luck to you anyways

Answer 10

well geez u mean u cant kiss your own daughter on the lips? i can see u know not wanting her to kiss everyone on the lips, and then just say u know kissses on the cheek honey. ne way thats what i would do, and yea i have had a baby daughter and son