why do i feel like people ignore me and i m worthless, compared to others?

Answer 1

It's a question of self confidence. If you think little of yourself, that image is projected, and others will think little of you too. You have to learn to value and love yourself, then others will too. A course in assertiveness would help, I know, I did one!

Answer 2

These thoughts are actually coming from YOU! It's the way you 'read' people...Often those with low self esteem are always on the look out for anything that resembles rejection or failure as evidence.

I think when you are with people you need to put all your focus and energy on listening to them and not thinking about what you will say, or how they received what you said.

Peoples with low self esteem think hundreds of negative thoughts about themselves a day...many are so subtle, it can be hard to catch yourself out!

You may FEEL as though people ignore you...but how much are YOU giving to them? I think fear perhaps takes away your initial smile that tells people you are warm and approachable.

So, try this, next time you go into a shop smile and say hello before you order...you'll see you get a similar response back. Practise this...then do it with others. Show an interest in what people have to say and ask questions.

The only person who can make you feel worthless, you see, is you and how you receive the comments of others.

Best wishes...get out there and catch yourself out on every negative thought by replacing it with a more positive one.

Best wishes

Answer 3

Low self esteem and you are very self concious. Its hard but just see them as the ones with the problem its not you. Maybe something major has happened to lower your self esteem. Ive been there done that got the t-shirt. Try reading self improvement books. By authors such as Fiona Harrold, Anthony robbins etc. If those dont help sometimes thats the bodys way of telling you to deal with a subject on your mind that is getting you down. You could go to your local doctor and ask for councelling, it doesnt work for everyone but through councelling you can explore your options.

Answer 4

That totally sucks, you poor soul. My best friend is always comparing herself to other people and this just leads to feeling inadequate because people only project the image they want others to see and not how they actually are and feel. I think if we all starting comparing ourselves to other people's projected image, we'd all feel like that. Remember that all these people you imagine to be better than you, probably feel exactly the same looking at you. Everyone has their insecurites and issues, but no one admits to it and they hide it under a mask of confidence. Stop comparing yourself to others and remember that so many people feel the same as you. It's all an illusion. People probably seem to ignore you because they are so busy trying to hide their own insecurities. Concentrate on yourself without comparing yourself to others and you'll realise that you're just fine and hopefully begin to like yourself a bit more.

Answer 5

Self-obsessed people don't have good manners!

They will bash into you in shops, stand in front of you so they can look at something- so you can't see, they will talk when you're trying to, they'll push in front of you in a queue; they will basically walk all over you if you let them.

That sort of rudeness really irks me - so I tend to Tut rather loudly, & say something like: "Am I invisible?" Or, "How rude!"
That achieves almost nothing to change them, that doesn't even seem to embarrass them, but that does partly relieve my angst!

One thing's for certain! I aint gonna join them!
I don't believe in clawing my way at other people's expense!
This reminds me of when I was trapped in a tunnel at an underground station in London; there was a bomb alert, & people went mad, stampeding for the exit. I stood against the wall & let them thunder by... That experience taught me not to join the idiots who go crashing through other people's lives, caring only about themselves!

So if you're gentle, peaceable & kind, stay that way! Please!
I need to know there are other nice folks out there too!

Answer 6

well try using I instead of i, you have to change the way you see yourself before anyone else will see you differently. You might need to gain more confidence in yourself, try taking a course. stop comparing yourself to others. do what makes you happy and let others do what they want. whats most important is how you see yourself. try to be more assertive. good luck. you are not worthless

Answer 7

1st off -you are important you were born in a country that has clean water-so count your self lucky!
I don't like their music but the band Slipknot had a point when they said people=sh*t
The vast majority of bodies on this planet are just to make up the numbers-you are an individual and as such deserve and command respect.
I would wager you have a fairly good sized tool-so go and use it!
everyone feels the same way as you(I sh*t u not)-at least you can admit to it-just buy me a drink next time I dont see you.

Answer 8

hiya
you should never feel this way because if you do it shows its getting to you Ur not worthless you are better and people who ignore you no that and there jealous of that the fact they no you can do better then them in life and they hate you for it because they wish they are you and you should be proud of that.
never think you shouldn't be here because your worthless because your worth more then anyone.

Answer 9

consider the way you appear to others
if you have no confidence in yourself it is poss that you come across as aloof and that you want people to stay away from you

i am being treated for depression but also used to have very poor self esteem

keep telling yourself you are just the same or better thn every one else
and
pratice smiling - even if is very difficult to so - if you persist it will come naturally
seek advise from your nurse or doctor
you are worth it
: - )

Answer 10

lots of people do

when i get paticularly bad days when i feel like this i think about what is it I admire in other people and what it is that makes me feel worthless if i can i do something constructive to change this - often the fixing is the best part

Remember the bits you change have to something you really dont like and would be happy if they changd dont try to conform to society - really look at other people watch them and you will se we are all trying to find the best way through FOR OURSELVES!!