My hubbys friend has popped round. All we have cooked is spaghetti bolognese. The visitor doesnt like pasta. Should I go and cook something special, like a curry (to be honest i am knackered from looking after my toddler daughter, am now 7 weeks pregnant, just want to to rest!)
2007-03-04 03:08:17 · 28 answers · asked by Chimera's Song 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i agree entirely with all your responses!! He has had nuts and fruit - i will stretch to a jacket potato but thats it!!
2007-03-04 03:36:53 · update #1
No - do not cook anything special for this man. By all means you can offer to share what you have already prepared but his unexpected visit should not mean you have to put extra pressure on yourself.
2007-03-04 03:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
I think if someone pops round unexpectedly, they just have to take 'pot luck'.
Having said that, I think it's important to treat guests with courtesy. So if it was me, I'd quickly microwave a 'baked' potato and serve it with some bolognese sauce and maybe some grated cheese.
That way you aren't slaving away in the kitchen but hubby's friend gets to share a meal with you. And if he still doesn't like it, perhaps he'll be kind enough to give a bit more notice next time!
Good luck!
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2007-03-04 11:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nobody 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your guest that you're very happy to see them but that you're tired because... offer them the meal, maybe with a jacket potato (easy enough in the microwave) instead. If they're a real friend they'll understand. Or ask your hubby to pop out for a takeaway for all of you and save the spaghetti for another day.
2007-03-04 11:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by i bear no gifts 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a rule, people should not pop round unexpectedly at meal times, unless it is for an urgent reason, the same at phoning for a chat! I would be mortified if I turned up when a meal was about to be served, state my business, say I had already eaten and leave.
2007-03-04 18:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After they leave certainly. If your hubby's friend hasn't brought anything to show their appreciation to the host and cook they should be invited to dine at another time and encouraged to call soon, bye. Its a good thing they don't like Pasta because that is all you should ever have when this "friend" tries to freeload meals off you without helping out.
2007-03-04 11:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Robert B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that a lot of nerve, he does not like pasta, or whatever you may have prepared. Serve him a piece of bread and a glass of water. Do not forget to give him a salt shaker. That should be enough for an un anounced guest. Do not encourage these they have a way of moving in and getting to live on your couch.
2007-03-04 11:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With close mates it is not to me, bad manners to suddenly appear. Equally, I would never expect someone to cook something special for me. I think you are perfectly right in giving him any thing that is available and give him a jacket potato at most. Lucky he, some wouldn't bother to do that much!
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-03-04 12:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mmm...i think if you are doing to pop round unexpectedly then you shouldn't do it at mealtime!!
I would offer a share of what i had made and if the visitor no like it - that's too bad!!
Don't knacker yourself out!!
2007-03-04 14:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. The best you should do is offer the dinner to this friend. If they refuse, offer a drink, but continue to have dinner with your family. If this person doesn't get a clue to leave and let you have your family time, then they are a dunce. But don't let anyone interrupt you and your family; just keep on doing what you were when they rang the bell.
2007-03-04 11:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by Opal 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Any uninvited guest should appreciate the constraints put on the hostess with a Family and the prospect of another mouth to feed. Not that I think you are in poverty, more that you did your best with so little warning.
Brave it out, apologise and ask your Husband to explain the reason why you were not, on this occasion, mindful of the needs of your unexpected guest. He might understand your dilemma.
2007-03-04 11:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by MANCHESTER UK 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If someone drops in without prior warning, they shouldn't expect anything special! Since he doesn't like pasta, why not give him the bolognese sauce with chips/ mashed potato/ rice/ in a pancake? Bulk it up with e.g. garlic bread/ salad/ bread rolls, and magic a pudding from somewhere - send the two blokes to the corner shop or something! ( with the toddler - so you can put your feet up!)
2007-03-04 11:14:57 · answer #11 · answered by mad 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋