My boyfriend & I were only together for 3 months & everything was great then out of nowhere he broke up with me. He was the one that had fallen hard & said that I was his soulmate & that I was the most important person in his life. He had talked about proposing to me at the end of this year. We spent every day 2-gether & had a wonderful relationship. The day he broke up with me was like any other, he brought me flowers as he always did. He talked about how he couldn't wait to meet my mom which he planned to do the following week, that was his idea. He also spoke of his excitement to spend the week with me while my roommate was on vacation. We went to an event & everything was fine. I had been worried about him b/c his mother may have cancer & obviously he was upset. He lost his dad 6 yrs ago & he has no siblings, so he would be alone if she were to pass. One minute he was fine, the next he picked a fight w/ me, told me his feelings about me had changed & that we were through. Thoughts?
2007-03-04 03:00:17 · 6 answers · asked by Sophie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him know that your there for him. That no matter what happens you'll always be there for him as a friend. After that give him time and space.
2007-03-04 03:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is that this situation has nothing to do with you. It's his stuff.
Having said that, it sounds as though he's going through a really tough time. When your last parent dies you really do feel like an orphan. Lost and alone. And only someone else who has gone through it can really understand how deeply it affects you.
Anyway-- I'd probably do this: I'd write him a note and tell him that you are here for him and his mother. If there is any way you can help, to please let you know. Day or night.
I would tell him that you will keep him and his mom in your prayers and that he will always have a special place in your heart.
love,
you.
(and I think I'd actually use snail mail)
And then, that's it. Don't send anything else. If he wants to reach out to you, you've opened the door.
Good luck to you. You didn't do anything wrong. He's just in a heartbreaking situation.
2007-03-04 03:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the same exact thing happened to me and he broke up cause we never seen each other then we seen each other yesterday and he said he regrets it cause he has fallin madly in love with me but anyways maybe he is just having a hard time and doesnt wanna bring you into the drama cause he does care about you or maybe he has been tryin to break up with you and didnt know how to do it!Its hard i kno the best thing to do is move one and if he really loves you he will come back which he probably does or else he wouldnt have spent 3 months on ur time so yea just give it time!
2007-03-04 03:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by BaBy KaTe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to frighten you but this exact thing happened to me before. I was with the guy and we were totally inseparable. Then all of a sudden he didn't want to be with me. I tried being understanding since he broke up with me the night of his best friends funeral. I gave him space and made sure he knew I was still there for him. He came back to me a week later and everything went back to normal. A month later I found out that he had met someone else and thats why he broke up with me. He did what he wanted to do, then realized he made a mistake and came back to me. This could be the case with your guy. He could be getting cold feet, and wants to check out his other options before he commits for life with you. He if loves you truly, he WILL come back.
2007-03-04 03:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He Might be afraid of losing you. If he cares that much about you! You really need to talk to him, and get a straight answer from him. It sounds deeper then a last minute change of mind.
2007-03-04 03:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by rebornphoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear to what happened .... it happens to all of us if eventually it seems .....
in the long run, I think you will be glad .... I think you will look back and not be sad .... I say this because this guy sounded like in truth, there were many things about him that were hidden from you .... things that you did not detect. You would have eventually figured these things out, but the relationship did not last long enough ......
some people are very skillful at hiding a second agenda within themselves from others they are close to ........
in your mind, everything was so perfect ....... but it was not that way with him ...... but now you are free to be with the one who is truly right for you ..... and when he comes your way, you will be a more wise individual ......
2007-03-04 03:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he had planned everything or he is an insecure person.
2007-03-04 03:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋