This has been going on for over a year now. I have caught my step-daughter touching my sons penis and even more then that. She ask him to touch her also. She is 9 and he is 6.
My husband and I have sat them both down and explained in a way that wouldn't hurt them as an adult about the subject.
The other day, I discovered that my son was under the bed, while my step daughter was foundlying him. I am out of answers, we have told them that this has got to stop, and she just wont. I feel that I watch them like a hawk all the time. I have set boundiers, nothing has worked. We now have seperated them, she is at her grandmothers until we can come up with a soliution. I feel she is just way to young to be doing this, she has even been in trouble at school for kissing boys on the playground.
Any suggestions would be helpful.
2007-03-04 02:48:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your step daughter has been sexually abused. Either directly by another person touching her or getting her to touch them, or she has been exposed to porn or parents having sex.
You guys need to face this and get her help. She is acting out what she's been taught and that's why she's doing that to your son. She is becoming a predator now, but deserves rescue and treatment.
Sex play happens, but given that you have told them this is not appropriate, normal kids would have stopped immediately.
Please get her a very good therapist with at least a decade of experience. Far too many poor therapists out there in this field who will do more harm than good.
And, you're right, you must tread carefully because your son and stepdaughter produced feelings in each other's bodies that they found pleasurable. This knowledge of their own pleasure makes children feel guilty for their own abuse.
2007-03-04 04:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your step son is a child, just as your son is. While this situation needs to be treated seriously, your step son is hardly a predator. It is quite common for children who have been molested to act it out on other children. Also, if his mother has truly had intercourse in front of him, that is a form of sexual abuse. It's no wonder that the poor child is acting out. He clearly did not get enough help if he's doing what he did. He needs to be seen by a child psychologist immediately. Molestation and other forms of abuse are not things that a child simply "gets over." Your step son should have been receiving ongoing therapy, which he clearly is not. Really, it's time to get the boy some more help. Good luck.
2016-03-28 23:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepdaughter needs counseling. Most "normal" 9 year old girls would find a boy's penis to be completely revolting, as well as being very discrete about their own privacy at that age. When my daughter was 9 she wouldn't even change her clothes in front of me. Your stepdaughter seems to be way too comfortable with sexuality. She needs help NOW. This isn't doing your 6 year old son a whole lot of good either. Make sure he gets counseling too, because like it or not...he is being sexually abused by his stepsister.
2007-03-04 05:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that your step daughter is doing that. There has got to be a reason why she is doing this. You need to talk to your husband too find out what is going on with her. She is probably being molested on a daily basis this is why she is that way. This is never going to stop unless you do some serious investigation.
You can't keep her away from your son forever, Good luck to you!!!!
2007-03-04 05:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 9 year olds imagination is not that vivid. She has seen the things that she is trying to do to your son somewhere.My 4 year old male cousin was getting oral sex from his next door neighbor. She was only 8 years old. I asked her where she seen such things and se told me that she seen her mommy doing that to her new boyfriend. She and I had a long talk about it, then I went and talked to her mom.She now knows that that is a thing that adults do.Ask her where she seen this. Make sure you don't make her feel like she is a bad person.Tell her that it is a thing that adults do ,not children.Children see more things than we realize. They are naturally curious also. Good luck!
2007-03-04 03:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by kk bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just my opinion, but it sounds like someone may have been abusing her in this Way would do some checking on mom's home life and who's around,or maybe she is just seeking attention, i would take her to see a counselor or physiologist, before it becomes a problem with older men, then you could really have a problem, or if she started fondling other boys t school , you could end up in some trouble or some real embarrassment.sorry other than seeking professional help, i dint have a clue
2007-03-04 05:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That child needs more help than you are able to give her. Try to get her into some kind of counseling. If there is a children's hospital in the area, they may have a clinic or can refer you to a reputable one.
2007-03-04 04:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet she is or has been abused get her and your whole family to a councilor NOW!
Little girls don't do this stuff on their own.
2007-03-05 10:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by knujefp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really take her to see a child therapist.
Do you know if she has been sexually abused or molested? Most kids who do this do it because someone did it to them or they saw someone doing it to someone
2007-03-04 05:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um not to be mean but if you feel you've tried everything then DON'T be ashamed to ask a professional for help.
2007-03-04 04:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋