We have something we need to figure out rather quickly. It is a VERY hard yes or no question. I don't want to decide on my own and yet he doesn't want to talk. I don't want to push the issue with him, but we have very little time to make a decision.
I know I'm being quite vague....but why won't he talk to me about something that is SO important to both of us?
2007-03-04 02:40:40 · 4 answers · asked by virtuouskelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men don't like to "talk".
They like to solve.
He needs time to figure out the solution, let him have the time.
He may surprise you.
We girls tend to dive into things without totally thinking it through.
I appriciate that about men. They rarely jump, they take time to resolve.
Good luck in your journey, whatever it is, and remember, that in the end, things happen for a reason... learn and take something from this experience.
2007-03-04 02:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by why-do-we waste our-time?? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it's hard to answer without knowing the whole question, but I would venture to say that if you're this stressed out he's probably feeling pretty stressed out too. Maybe he doesn't know what his answer is. Or maybe he's afraid that you won't like his answer. If he won't talk to you, you may have to make the decision on your own and do what's best for you. Or tell him "This is what I think we should do. I'd love to discuss it with you but you won't talk to me. Please tell me what you think, because I really want you to be a part of this, but a decision has to be made and if you won't give me your input I'm going to have to make it without you." And if he STILL won't talk, then it's his own fault that he wasn't included and you're going to have to be the one to stand up and be decisive. Good luck to you!
2007-03-04 10:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys react to difficult situations by either (1) declaring that it isn't important, or (2) by shutting down.
Men understand, at least on an unconscious level, that women are much more skillful verbally that they are. It goes back to primitive days when men used to hunt silently focusing entirely on the prey and women used to gather nuts and berries able to chat with one another, collaborate verbally, and focus on many things at once.
You may have to face the possibility you will have to make the decision and communicate it to him. He'll either go along or state why.
2007-03-04 10:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is as important to him as it is to you. and maybe he wants to avoid the subject
2007-03-04 10:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋