I turned seventeen in February and I have one of the most strict dads to ever breathe air. I don't have my license, and my dad won't let me get it yet, and I don't know why. I've had my permit since June, and been driving and practicing ALL THE TIME, and he says I can't drive and I'm not ready to yet. That's so unfair, and I know that isn't his real reason. I CAN drive. He has other reasons for why he really doesn't want me to have it. Also, he won't EVER let me have guy friends, and he definitely won't let me have a boyfriend. I do though, I talk to him often, but we can't ever hang out. If I ask my dad to hang out with him he turns me down. My mother allows me to hang out with him sometimes, without my dad knowing. My dad always says he doesn't trust me, but how can I earn trust with him if I can't go do anything to gain it? I haven't done anything in the past to have lost trust either. I get decent grades, help around the house, and I'm even trying to get a job. Help :[
2007-03-04 02:34:31 · 12 answers · asked by erika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No offence intended but you sound very young...He is only trying to protect you.
2007-03-04 02:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Erinyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest.
If you have a boyfriend behind his back, how can you truly expect to earn his trust through secrecy?
The truth will pop up sooner or later, and he can completely lose his trust in you if he finds it out himself, rather than you telling him.
Show him that you care and respect his opinions. Reveal to him that you're not a toddler anymore. :P Open his eyes to your determination, ask him to accept you for who you are.
Joke with him, hang out with him, even if he turns you down sometimes. Show your interest in the things he does and show your interests to him.
Regret is worse than fear. You gotta start somewhere! :P
My father was pretty much like this two years ago, or rather, he was really irritated by me. I pretty much did these things and now he's the most unique person in the world, in my opinion! :)
P.S I'm betting on you! :P
P.SS Yes. You're capable. ;)
P.SSS Perhaps your father is afraid to lose you, behind that strict mask. He probably already accepts and love you endlessly as a daughter, but is insecure. Make him understand that you will always try to be there when he needs your help. Show him you care.
P.SSSS Don't forget your mother, either. ;)
2007-03-04 02:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 1st step to building trust is to be honest. When your not honest people can tell and they don't trust you. If your going behind his back to see a guy (which is pretty cheap) he knows. You will not have healthy relationships with guys either if you don't have one with your dad. I feel sorry for your dad and would not let you get your driver's license either.
2007-03-04 02:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad does not think you appear to be very mature, responsible, wise, and do not value your relationship with him. And if your sneaking around with a boy ... he knows. He also probably thinks you don't respect him and that's sad for you cause it's hindering your chances of getting your drivers license.
Read a book on how to be a good daughter maybe it will change the way you behave. Good Luck.
2007-03-04 02:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by divinity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long do you have before you turn 18 ? Probably your dad is being over-protective for his little girl. And he is probably right. Guys at that age, all they want is $ex and to look cool. He must have seen all this when he was around your age. Just wait till you are 18, you can do whatever you want. But hey he is your dad, and loves you more than anyone, so be patient.
2007-03-04 02:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dad's are always like this with their daughters. My dad was a lot like that.. He just had to meet my bf first. Then he settled down a little bit. He just doesn't want to see his daughter hurt. Fathers are always really protective over their daughters. They make themselves feel BIG and manly doing this
2007-03-04 02:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by booboo89s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't done anything to make him not trust you??
HELLLLOOOO....you have a boyfriend you see behind his back. Your mother should be ashamed for allowing this. She is not treating your father right. You've got some growing up to do. I applaud your dad for wanting to keep you safe until you do.
2007-03-04 03:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time parent do know best and at the same time they worry too much. The news , humors around about teenages makes him worried too much. All these reason makes him scared that you might jump to all these mistake too.
with a talk with him , take him to yr school, ask him to talk to yr teachers makes can help out the situation. He too scared to let you go, thats all his problem.
2007-03-04 02:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
relax tow the line for now. one more year and then your free to choose your own way. But be aware out on your own isn't all the freedom its cracked up to be then its your boss and your bills that tell you what to do.
2007-03-04 02:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by setter505 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father probably isnt stricked, hes just cares about you.You can try showing him that you can do it and maybe even have a friend take you there when he is out !
2007-03-04 02:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by anna banana 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋