Is sleeping around really so bad.....?

Question

....I mean, it's one of the few hobbies I have which doesn't cost a fortune, isn't taxed all over the place, keeps me fit, is environmentally friendly (I'd be riding my motorbike if I wasn't doing it) and is a hell of a lot of fun....

.....where's the problem?

(Yes, I am single and yes, I do take precautions)

Thanks for the ideas....

I've done the loving relationship thing and it was great. I'm sure I will give it another go. But after 4 years we were both bored in bed. Guess we didnt love each other enough. I think many people underestimate how important and elusive good sex is to a long and healthy relationship. I'd prefer to have my affairs BEFORE I settle down rather than mess up a marriage by sleeping around later.

Lack of self-esteem/self respect? I don't think so. Although I find it very flattering when someone finds me attractive enough to sleep with, it's my friends from whom I get those. And I never take knock backs personally.

Diseases? Taking precautions means more than just putting on a condom - I only sleep with those I think I'd be interested in having a relationship with.

I was hoping someone might shed some light on why people in general who enjoy sex with more than just one partner get a "bad" reputation....

Answer 1

It seems OK while you're single, though while you're feeding your sexual appetite you may not be feeding your emotional one. However you should make sure that if you ever find yourself in a serious relationship, you will be able to concentrate on just that one person.

Answer 2

If you're single, using precautions and not hurting anyone then i guess it's ok but there is such a thing as self respect. I don't see how sleeping around is going to keep you happy the rest of your life. Surely at some point you'll want to settle down but if you've slept around all your life how will you ever commit to one person or do you intend not to? I have been on my own before but i feel so much happier being with someone but it's each to their own at the end of the day. I think you are frightened to actually try and have a meaningful relationship with someone due to low self esteem so by sleeping around it makes you feel macho and manly when in fact its quite sad. You will never experience what a true loving relationship will give. Be happy and be safe

Answer 3

The problem of sleeping around is that once you sleep around and the people find out they are likely to think that it's a bad thing. They might think women who sleep around are btchs and for the guys are players. The word player doesn't sound bad as the word btchs are for women. Now if you're doing it for a living, do not mind what others say. They have no idea why you are doing it. It's your own personal reason. If you're really worried about what they might say, then it goes under reputation and pride. Most of the guys are pretty egoistic when it comes to serious things as that.

Answer 4

well I say do what you want and have fun if your protecting yourself. Just know that just cause you protect yourself doesn't mean it will always be full proof. One day you could end up with a disease. AIDS being the worse of them all. Not to mention it may sound old fashioned but I think you should love some one and have a connection with them to be intimate. I feel that if you just go around sleeping with who ever wants to hook up with you then your just throwing yourself and very possibly your respect away. You should love yourself more and find the right one to be with. That is just my opinion. Like I said you have to do what is right for you and only you know what that is. You have but one life as far as you know. Live it as you see fit. Good luck!

Answer 5

As long as the two people are very careful, that's fine. The thing about sex is that times have changed. Women are more sexually active with strong sexual appetites. The religious still have the same views of sex since the middle ages. But, in general, people express sexual desires much more freely than ever.

Answer 6

Men do it and are considered "macho" or "studs".....so why can't a woman do it to? If you're single and it doesn't bother you to have different partners, then I say, 'TO HELL WITH WHAT PEOPLE THINK AND SAY, GO FOR IT!' Enjoy your time, but just be careful that you don't end up in bed with some idiot or catch an STD.....just keep using protection....

Answer 7

How about poor self value, diseases and just plain shows that you are incapable of a strong, good monogamous relationship. Condoms do not protect against all diseases, read the label. To you it may be free but trust me it costs you more than you know. Your self esteem and one day you will wake up rather lonely with no one to take those slow quiet walks with in a loving relationship. It takes a strong person to be committed to a good loving relationship. Take a good look at yourself and answer all those questions you have unanswered.

Answer 8

As long as you're not hurting anyone and you're protecting yourself and not getting involved with the married ones, then I say what two consenting adults do between themselves is no ones business but theirs. Better to get it out now so you'll be ready to settle down if the time ever comes.

Answer 9

Well...seeing as you say you are single and that you are careful (i.e. using condoms) I suppose there isn't really anything wrong with it.
As-long as the people you are sleeping with know that you are not looking for a relationship with them, becase it would be unfair to mislead someone like that.

Answer 10

lets see...you dont think sleeping around is a problem. when you sleep around you really miss out on the experience of a loving relationship. sleeping around makes you shallow and indifferent so I guess if you dont mind diseases that even a condom cant stop and the fact you dont bond with another person and it has to be a lonely life...go ahead have fun.