why cant I get over the fact, that I could not have children?

Answer 1

Because it is more easy to focus on the negative than the positive. I am sorry you cannot have children. But, maybe you were meant to be one of those women who lovingly take on children whom other parents didn't want. Don't be so hard on yourself. Share your love with a child already born into this hard world who needs a mom.

Answer 2

I tell u what I felt about it when I was told.....
As a woman....i felt like less of a woman.
As a man, ....i assume the same would be true.

Its human nature to procreate and when u are robbed of that, its a very difficult thing to accept mentally, emotionally and physicallly.

However, this doesnt mean u cant have a purpose in life. This is how i found peace. I knew i was put here for a reason. Just didnt know what it was.
Perhaps adoption? Perhaps a relative in need?
Many different reasons.

And.......I was told for 20 years I would never be a mom. A true miracle has happened, because I am nearly 30 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. I am 40 years old and this is the last thing I can imagine at my age.....but it just goes to show u that sometimes things arent what they seem I am thrilled beyond belief. My mom tells me I am the happiest pregnant woman she has ever seen. lol Perhaps because I am not taking it for granted as a woman with healthy female organs would, but rather enjoying every ache and pain and just glad for the experience. lol A true dream come true for me. I am so blessed.
I am not saying the same will ring true for u, but my life was very fulfilling prior to my pregnancy. I had come to terms with the fact and had 3 God children whom i adored and kidnapped on occasion to fill the void. My husband and I were exploring the adoption scenerio.
Dont give up, u can be a parent....whether it be biological or not. You have a purpose.....and you will see what it is eventually.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I am so sorry. It must be very very hard.

But, have you thought of adopting? There are so many kids out there that need homes, and you will love them just as your own.

You can also adopt a baby, ask friends, your church, and look for adoption seminars in your area. Do not go with anyone, find reputable people.

If this is not an option for you, do you have nieces and nephews?
Then it is your job to be the cool Aunt! A friend of ours cannot have kids also but her nieces and nephew LOVE her and her husband, and spend the night at least once a month. No, it is not the same as having your own, but she is a very important person in there children's lives and will always be.

I will keep you in my prayers. I hope this helped.

Answer 4

Because you're probably feeling *slighted* by a higher authority. The majority of women out there have a natural craving to want to have children, I've met one or two who want nothing to do with it. Something that seems so natural and easy for everyone, is impossible with you, for whatever reason. It's not fair. Now what you have to start asking yourself is: "Do I want to have a child for the birthing experience, or would I be satisfied looking in to adopting a child and raising as my own?" There are thousands and thousands of babies out there waiting to be adopted by people who actually *want* children in their lives. It is a viable option. It certainly doesn't replace the experience of birthing, but the longevity of raising a child and having that lifetime entity that *you* chose inyour life,.. probably outweighs the birthing experience bar none.

I'm sorry for your sadness. It's truly not fair. God made women to procreate mankind, it seems like the natural thing to do. But you do have options if you want the *baby* experience, without the labor & delivery.

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

It probably hurts, but if you can't have them...you have to get on with life. Sometimes...I mean sometimes, the doctors are wrong and if you stop trying so hard and get it off of your mind, things happen when you least expect it because you've let it go. Worrying can cause things not to happen...sometimes.
Also, prayer helps a lot. Praying positive prays and sowing seeds for the right reasons can also help.
Good luck.

Answer 6

Because every (well just about) wants to have a child, they want someone to take care of till they get old enough to move out and kids of their own.
No women really doesn't to not ever want to have a kid.
Children are the apple of our eyes. But remember you can always adopt if you can't concieve...just adopt.

Answer 7

Technically you can have children. You can adopt them from a adoption center. You don't have to have them naturally. Adopt.

Answer 8

It means so much to you ..that's why you can't get over it. Plus..it's not something that you can get over so easily. It will take time..maybe considering other options will make things better

Answer 9

you want what you cant have. Its unfortunate! you could adopt! Try talking to others in the same position

Answer 10

because you really want kids and you just dont wanna have sex if your not gonna have anything and why dont you just adopt