We split up about 5 months ago, I'm with a new guy now but I still have the engagement ring. I don't wear it obviously and when we split up I tried to give it back to my ex and he said " I could never take that, it was and is a symbol of my love for you so I would never sell it or give it to anyone else". I thought that was really sweet so I did keep it. BUT a few months later, he asked for it back to "hold onto it, in case we get back together and I want to propose again." So what to do? Keep the ring (it's geeee-orgeous!!!), sell the ring and travel the world, or return the ring?
(keep in mind too that I suppoorted him for the last year we were together and he still owes me about $2000.00)
2007-03-04 01:56:24 · 15 answers · asked by Free Spirit 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Return the ring. An engagement ring is a conditional gift, it is given with an intend of marriage. When the engagement is broken the ring should be returned. It is the proper way. Of course if you care more about bubbles than etiquette or the relationship itself then keep it, sell it, whatever. Just keep in mind if he ever decides to take you to the small claims court the law will be definitely on his side.
2007-03-04 03:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by oksana_rossi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it back. Holding on to the ring means you will still have a connection to that person. Basically a reason for him to call and start a conversation. You are in a new relationship, so leave the old baggage at the curb. As far as the money he owes you, leave it alone. You guys were in a relationship don't keep a tab. Sometimes we have to lose things coming out of a relationship. If he didn't pay you by now, then he probably won't. Just enjoy your new beau, and forget about him.
2007-03-04 10:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by pretty_as_me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You offered to give it back to him and he refused. End of story.
He has no right to come back later with the lame excuse of wanting the ring back in case the two of you get back together.
Him owing you money for the time you were together has nothing to do with the issue of the ring. Deal with that separately and don't allow the ring to enter into it.
I might suggest you put the ring in a safety deposit box until the first anniversary of your split and then take it out and wear it as you wish.
2007-03-04 02:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he owes you $2,000 and the ring is worth that or more.
I'd say his dept is paid in full. Keep the ring and sell it.
That may be the only way you'll ever get your money from him.
Your only other choice would be to give him a deadline in writing both of you signed and dated w/witness for him to pay you the $2,000 back. With the terms if he doesn't pay you back by the date that you keep the ring and can do with it as you please.
2007-03-04 02:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by ASDZA’NI 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You return the ring, through any means. Give it to his mother to pass along to him, even. It was not a gift in the regular sense, but rather a symbol. If he owes you money, that's a totally different situation, and is not related to the engagement ring.
2007-03-04 02:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Normally, I'd tell you that you need to give back the ring because its a 'promise' of marriage and not just a hunk of jewelry.
BUT, he owes you money so all bets are off.
If he's persistent, tell him you'll give him the ring in exchange for the money he owes you.
I'll bet you that he'll drop the issue really quick.
2007-03-06 02:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The engagement ring was a gift to you, you can keep it and do with it what you want. Reality check: He wanted the ring back to sell it, not to propose to you again at a later date.
2007-03-04 02:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sassygirlzmom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first, the ring was a gift to you and is yours to do whatever with.Second, to use a ring in another relationship is bad carma. If I was you I would sell the ring outright or even on e-bay. In truth, he probably has another g/f and is going to give the ring to her so he doesn't have to buy another one. It may be a nice ring but you need to get rid of it . Good luck
2007-03-04 02:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's a DAMN Indian-giver! He might give that to his next woman. You having the ring might cause friction between you & the current boyfriend, so I'd give it back in order to save the current relationship, & as for the $2,000, I'd take the ex to small claims court & get my murney. LOL
2007-03-04 02:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
His excuse for wanting it back is just bull, he's probably decided to sell it. He gave it to you so tell him you'll hang on to it yourself and in the event that you get back together (not likely by the sound of things) and you want to propose to him, you'll give it back to him to return as his acceptance.
2007-03-04 03:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋