My daughter keeps removing the Sky card from the machine and pushing the box on to the floor. It's going to break one of these times! I would rather not smack her, but telling her off doesn't work!
2007-03-04 01:51:15 · 38 answers · asked by scamp 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
TIME OUT FOR A 1YR OLD - U LOT ARE SO HARSH !!!!!
why don't u take her in the kitchen find a box cut a slit in it & make her her very own sky box ! she is not even 1 yet, sounds like she has found herself a good game to play so now u have to find her another one, good luck & remember, enjoy her u only have 13mnths left & then she will be in the terrible two's !!
2007-03-06 00:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by K W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I feel you on your child not listening. I help raise 2 year old twins and they can be a handful....lol The boy is much worse than the little girl. He will not listen for anything. Smacking him does not work and most of the time yelling at him doesnt either. I know that the thing I have found that works the most is trying to talk to him calm. Then there are times that there is nothing that will help him. He just has to run his temper tantrum and then he stops. That is so annoying though...lol However I would try talking calm to her and telling her that isn't nice and see how she responds. If not try tapping her on the fingers so she knows its bad. Not hard just enough to show her a new form of punishment. As they get older they tend not to hear the tones as much when you talk to them. I have also heard that if you try to change the subject or make them look or play with something else that can help. However I don't believe in this method because they are not learning that what they are doing is wrong but just passifying them until they do it again. So I dont really recommend doing that one...lol I hope at least something I said in this mess helps you out. Good luck with your daughter.
2007-03-04 02:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by joeve13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I think the only thing you need is distraction.
I doubt, at this age, that a smack would work, she isn't old enough to understand the relationship between the action and the consequence.
I would recommend that you try to move the box to a different position so that it's not as easy to take the card out. Can you use a bit of sellotape to keep the card in the box, and perhaps a bit of sticky velcro to make it harder for your daughter to take the box down?
2007-03-04 12:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 11 month old daughter is behaving developmentally appropropriat for her age. Her behavior is not misbehavior. She is being curious and is exploring and learning as she test things out, which is a great thing ! If you don't want her to touch it, move it out of her reach. For her age, telling her "no" how ever you say it being rough or softly, she will go back to doing it the next day or later on in the day. There is a good reason for this. Children this young have a short memory and will not remember. Putting her on time out is out of the question because its not appropriate for her age.
2007-03-04 14:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out anything by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Especially:
Liberated Parents/Liberated Children
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
2007-03-04 02:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by CH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal to smack a child under a year old in the uk.
Try moving the box somewhere else, though i know this may not be possble
Firmly tell her no, and distract her with something else like some toys.
Praise her good behaviour she may just be trying to get attention.
2007-03-04 02:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by brownsuga 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have a glass fronted cabinet to keep your sky, DVD ETC in this is just going to get worse as your child gets older so id suggest buying one. Smacking is abusive bullying, unnecessary and counter productive, i suggest reading the fab book "raising happy children" by Jan Parker, Jan Stimpson, and Dorothy Rowe
2007-03-05 21:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by pinkyandbunty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be wrong saying this, but I always found that a no then a tap on the back of the hand (a light slap, if you want to call it that) as it reached out to do what it shouldn't, Did the trick.
I was strict because if the child ever reached out for something dangerous ( a pan of hot water or anything) I wanted them to stop when I said no, not after they had hurt themselves.
And, yes, if the light slap didn't work, the next time I said no, there was a slightly harder slap. You sometimes have to be cruel to be kind. They soon learned, and everybody was happy. HTH LOL
2007-03-04 02:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by R.E.M.E. 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my daughter responds well to no but also we got a TV cabinet with doors so the sky box DVD and TV are out of sight and no an issue.I also don't put the TV on much when shes up playing cause i want her to learn to entertain herself so she never really sees it to bother try that and preserver with saying no in a stern voice she'll learn my daughter did she is now 11 months too xx
2007-03-04 21:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by noot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 11 months she must be doing it for the reaction; she's not able to tell right from wrong. I'd say that the most important thing is to react calmly, preferaby not at all, and then divert her attention. If she's getting plenty of attention that is good, she won't need to ask for bad attention and will quickly forget.
Oh - and move things that can be broken out of reach!
2007-03-04 01:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by Older&Wiser 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋