my boyfriend and i have dated for nearly 9 months.. he's a real genuwine guy. Ive always thought he was the one but my mom would never allow me to date, especially this guy.
a yr before we dated, he was so drunk off his face,a girl that had been chasing him went into the bathroom where he was, locked the door and ...stuff happened. (doesnt know i know)
Nowadays, she calls him most days, parties a lot with him and even spends all the "nye, aus day, etc etc" with him.
wen it was jus them two in the car and my bf turned on a sad love song.. she started to cry saying how lonely she was.
i think i have trust issues.. my boy is really someone u wud trust, yet is someone who clubs, parties, drinks alot.. what should i do? give him more time? end it? PLEASE HELP! im so upset
2007-03-04 01:40:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie there is one way to find out if he is as genuine as you say he is.Read on and i will explain.
If he is your man and has been for 9mths, he should really be respecting your feelings regarding this girl. He shouldent be trying to reassure you. thats trying to make you settle for something that makes you insecure,He should if he loves you be going ok my girl dosent like this...even though it is not an issue for me...it is for her so i will put a stop to it because i love her and wouldnt want her to feel insecure or hurt.
So tell him straight out that you dont trust this girl. You dont trust her because she seems to have no respect for the boundries of your relationship. And tell him that you dont want it to continue or you are out of there!
This girl sounds like a real skank. She is trouble. She is after your man and thats obvious! And she has shown that she has no morals or values or respect!Girls just should not do that to another girl! Another womans man is off limits for lots of things, including partying and priviate personal conversations!She needs to be knocked down a few pegs!
You are only young and young girls so often get treated badly because they are not assertive enough! You have to set the rules as to how you will and will not be treated, and dont compromise on those things, if the man wont toe the line, find one who will.
Love is not really supposed to make you feel insecure and hurt.
Good luck to you and i hope you are able to make the right decision and feel empowered by that decision!And i hopr you find somone soon whos love makes you feel, confident, safe secure and cherished!Love and blessings!~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
2007-03-04 02:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have problem with "stuff happening" between him and other girls then u should break up. U want someone who will show u respect in that way and he isn't that guy so end it. If u don't think of sex as cheating then don't worry about it. If u didn't have a problem with it however u wouldn't be asking this question. I also know that u have a problem with him being with the other girl. Why is he still hanging with her if he sees something wrong with what he did? Obviously he doesn't and most likely he's still doing it with her. He's not showing u the type of respect that u want so u shouldn't waste anymore time. The girl that he is with doesn't seem to have a problem with him being with other girls so let them be together. DON'T LET HIM FOOL U INTO THINKING THAT HE WILL CHANGE IF U GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE. He will say anything just to prevent you from leaving even though he knows that it's not true.
2007-03-04 09:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have good reaon to have trust issues. Why would you want to be with someone that makes you have trust issues. I think if you're with someone you should always be happy with them. He parties, clubs, drinks a lot. If you're willing to accept him the way he is including him being friends with this girl, then you're going to probably not trust him and always feel this way because he's not gonna change. If you don't accept this, then move on and let him go.
2007-03-04 09:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry.. but i will have to agree with mom! Mom's have some kind of motherly instint to protect their children regardless of circumstance. has she denied you to date everyone or just the ones she doesnt like? talk to your mom and ask her honestly what she does not like it him... maybe it could help you make a decision if he is truly a keeper!
but on the other hand you say you know he has done something with this person but he does not know you know... right there should tell you he is not honest. guys are physical not emotional! maybe out of curiousity you should just show up to the club/party unannounced and see what he is really up too. if he gets mad your there... well hun you need to dump his *** he is not worth it! but if he is happy to see u just showed up you may have a good one.
BUT ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER! SORRY:(
2007-03-04 09:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by joyous 1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are the type of a person who can handle having an open relationship, then it's okay. But if you are a monogamous one, you better think. It's a red light.
I think he loves to play (maybe in a good or bad way)...everything under the sun.
Is he a>>> BF material?...Yes, for fun, sun and bun...Hubby material? NO.
2007-03-04 09:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by nontester 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Were you spying on those two or something or did you just happen to be at the wrong place at the wrong time to notice that he's been cheating on your back. I'd stay away from him because when he's drunk, he's got other girls in his mind to flirt around with.
2007-03-04 09:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by killerwhalesrule19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't sound all that trustworthy. He gets loaded on alcohol and doesn't send the girl away, lets her flirt with him, etc. If he were trustworthy, he would make sure she's not alone with him because he knows how she feels about him.
2007-03-04 09:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should bring up ur concerns to him and tell him that that chick is a manipulating slut. or you could not even bother with an alcoholic and dump his ***.
2007-03-04 09:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunetly
DONT TRUST HIM
it sounds like a really fishy story
but if you REALLY like him, then dig more into the story, clear it up
2007-03-04 09:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Alexander S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him and move on. he will eventually treat you, as he is treating her now.
Headgames are to be avoided
2007-03-04 09:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by duster 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋