This past month he been giving hidden mean remarks, such as "everyone knows that, haha i cant believe you dont" Yesterday, he was talking to my mom, saying how he is annoyed of me and all. I heard and started crying, he heard and started comforting me like that didnt happen.
Now, today. my mom was cleaning, my dad walks in "you annoying, get away from me. ive got enough problems!" (hes still yelling at this time). He was always strict and contorlling, thinking whats best for me. (such as my future career). Why does he act like this, whats a good way to stop it?
(im not talking to my parents about this, and not going to as teachers)
2007-03-04 01:38:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we've been having money problems.. and he dosent speak english well so he cant a job. but on the other side he always yelled or said mean things
2007-03-04 01:47:29 · update #1
You can't change the way another person acts. He may have stress from work or other problems and uses you as a way to vent. It is not fair or healthy, but it does happen. The only thing that you can do is to live your life. Talk to your mother about it and tell her how you feel, but try to brush off everything he says. Most people who are bullies, even verbal abuse is just bullying, need to see a reaction in their targets. Take away the reaction and he may give up and find someone else to target.
2007-03-04 01:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are having money problems right now. Well that is very stressful and they say that when you are stressed out you take it out on the ones you love the most. Mind you that is no excuse for him to talk to you the way he does. Defiantly WRONG!!!
He probably doesn't mean what he says. I know you said that you didn't want to talk to him about this. May you should reconsider. You and he should sit down and have a father daughter talk. Let him know that he is really hurting you when he says these things. You never know it might help him realize what he's doing.
2007-03-04 09:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First? I'm a Fathwr of a Daughter. From what I can gather? He's worried that you'll become a Victim of today's, society. There's a lot of mean and cruel People, out there. He doesn't want you to be hurt, by it. Give it some time away. But you do owe him the Love, of talking to him about it. He does Love you? Or he'd ask you to move out. He's wanting you safe? And knows that the time is getting close to you leaving. Be Sweet. But Love him also.
2007-03-04 09:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would be distance myself from. Really concentrate on your studies so you can get a good career someday and be away from him completely.
Also, if you dad never acted like this before maybe he is having a mental break down of some sort. If he has always been like this than just stay away as much as possible. Maybe you could vent to your friends. I know it is hard. My mother has been a beast to me all her life. Super critical and mean spirited in everything I do. I just found staying away was the best for my own mental well being.
2007-03-04 09:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my dad was alot like that (only much worse, cursing me all the time and hitting me) till i smacked him in the face cuz he hit me 4 something that wasn't even my fault.
i am NOT saying to smack ur dad, but u do need 2 show him in some way that u aren't kidding with him and the only way to do that is to get someone with more authority on him.
once i smacked my dad (DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME KIDS) my mom told me i was a terrible person. i didn't even want to talk to her. but then she realized that he was becoming a problem and kept him away from me ( a little ).
don't let him bring you down
4 me, it seems like my whole family is constantly trying to do that, but if you keep ur head up look em in the eye and show some strong body language, they should back down.
at least, a little.
2007-03-04 10:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have an aunt or another adult to talk to?? YOUR DAD SHOULD NOT BE SAYING THIS STUFF TO YOU!! And honestly there is not much you can do on our own without things getting worse.. this is an issue your mother should deal with.. Can you talk to her if the two of you go out alone?? If not you need to talk to an adult your trust and go from there.. Good Luck hunny and remember it is not your fault your dad has some issues and is taking them out on you..which is not right
2007-03-04 09:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he has something in his mind, that makes him so worried about you. Why not sitdown and have a talk with him, ask him what does really bother him recently.
2007-03-04 09:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you controled mind. adjust with them for future
2007-03-04 10:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way, one get weird attitude when they grow old
2007-03-04 09:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by ButterMilkQueso 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋