At what age should I let my daughter get her ears pierced?

Question

Some of my daughters friends (ages 7 and 8) have their ears pierced and my daughter wants to get hers done too. I think its too young. What do you think?

Answer 1

I think it only matters what you think. While getting your ears pierced isn't that huge a deal, it is one of those milestones along the way to grown-up. And you really don't want to reach the end of that one too early.

My suggestion is that, whenever you decide it's time, you ask her to show that she is more grown-up in order to get them done. For instance, ask her to take on a new task, or to be responsible for getting herself out the door on time in the morning.

Good luck and enjoy your daughter.

Answer 2

I don't think any age is too young. I remember my mother telling me I had to wait until I was 13 although she gave in and let me get them done when I was 10. A lot of girls I went to school with had theirs done way before me. It's not like a facial piercing or anything where people judge you on it so I guess it's up to you and your daughter when is the best time. If you feel that it's too young then make her wait a little longer. She will probably appreciate it more when the time comes and you do let her get it done. May even make it a special birthday present for her 10th birthday or something so she has something to look forward to.

Good luck!

Answer 3

ok some people don't know how to take a question seriously. Heres my advice. i had my ears pierced when i was very young about 4. whenever i did sport i took them out so they wouldn't get ripped then put them back in imediately afterwards. they are really not that big a deal and if your daughter wants to get it done i think you should let her. i think you should let your child get her ears pierced at whatever age she asks for it. it isn't hard to look after as long as they wear sleepers and not studs after the first few months when it has healed. Just because you let her get this done doesn't mean shes going to ask for tatts or more piercing but if your worried just tell her that before she goes to get them done so she understands what the ground rules are. I hope this is helpful. good luck.

Answer 4

8 is a safe age to get it done. A good jeweller usually gets it done so quickly that pain is hardly an issue. You might have to experiment a little with metals before you find out what her ears are allergic and not allergic to. Mine for example only accept gold.
The other issue is to see that she is responsible enough to look after her earrings. Children can be careless. There are all sorts of earrings out there, so if you go buy her an expensive set, make sure she knows how valuable they are. i got mine pierced at 8. a simple pair of earrings does make a girl look pretty, even though they are pretty anyway. and at the tender age of 8 they need all the support they can get to help them adjust to the peer pressure that lies ahead. this earring piercing would be a milestone to more responsibility, and could even be a bonding experience between you two. You can always go on your own to the place you plan to get it done beforehand, and make the necessary enquiries to put your mind at rest, particularly about sterilisation of the equipment used.

Answer 5

Look, you're the mother, so whatever you say goes...Don't do it just because her friends had it done...However, personally, I don't see what's the big deal with the first pair of ear piercing...it's the other additional piercings that's ok for concern to be raised...My mother had my ears pierced when I was still a newborn (can't remeber how many months I was exactly)...When I was 15 I had to get into an argument to get additional ear piercings...So based on my experience, the first ear pierces shouldn't be a major issue...Let her get it done while she's still young and willing...the older she gets the more hesitant she may be...My friend on the other hand hadn't gotten her ears pierceed until she was 12, and she was frightened!

Answer 6

It really depends on how mature your daughter is. Explain to her that she will have to clean her ears/earrings at least twice a day for six weeks. Also, she can not take the earrings out, or change them for six weeks. And if your still not sure is she is ready for the responsibility, find some pictures on-line, and show her what an infected piercing looks like from improper care. If after all of that, she still wants to do it, then she is probably old enough.

Answer 7

I hope you don't mind getting a quick opinion from a teenager here.

I didn't get my ears pierced until I was a freshman in high school, and when I did, it made me feel so grown up. Wow, when I think about it, it kind of seems sad to me.

Anyway. I think pierced ears really needs to wait. Most of the girls in my class got their ears pierced when they were in 2nd grade, and some even before that. And I look at a majority of the girls in my class, and I think, "Wow, why would anyone want to be like that?" Let's just say their morals aren't exactly apparent, and a lot of it I suppose could be blamed on wanting to learn things and do things at too young of an age and "growing up too fast".

Basically, I think you should wait to get your daughters ears pierced. I'm not saying that her friends are going to turn out like the girls in my school, or that she's going to if you let her get her ears pierced. Maybe having their ears pierced at a young age wasn't the starting point of the bad behavior and such in my school. I don't know, and I'll probably never know. But I thought you'd might want to consider that kind of thing before taking her to get holes punched in her ears.

Answer 8

Some moms get their daughters ears pierced at like 3 months. I think I had mine done at 5 or 6. Talk with let her know how it's done and how to keep them clean. In the end you have the final decision.

Answer 9

I took my daughter at 6 weeks to get her ears pierced. I think it is LESS cruel that way. She slept on her back, so she did not have the pain of sleeping on her ear. When we did the actual piercing, we did not give her a bottle before we went to the salon, so when the girl pierced her ears we gave her the bottle and she never even cried.
You should let her get them pierced. If she decides in a year that she does not like it after all, the hole grows closed. The human body is amazing!

Answer 10

I had my daughter's ears pierced when she was three months old. I figured it would be easier to care for them at that age...I could turn the earrings and put the solution on them at every diaper change, and that way I wouldn't forget to do it. She did fine with them until she was almost 4. Then one of the holes kept getting bigger and bigger, even though she hadn't gotten it caught on anything. We had to take her earrings out and we had the problem ear repierced again nine months later. She's doing fine with them now, but I wish I hadn't had them done.

My younger daughter is almost two and her ears aren't pierced. She asks for them when she sees my earrings or her big sister's earring, but I'm really hesitant to have them done because of the problems we had with my other daughter's ears.

Answer 11

Parents are getting their children's ears pierced at a year old and younger today. My daughter's ears were pierced when she was 8 mo's old - little girls like to dress up, and they look really cute - but I think its up to the individual or the parent.. I personally do not think that 7/8 yrs old is too young, but ultimately its your decision.