How can you be so sure that you like him/her or he/she will like you the day afer tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year?
Please don't respond like, "I haven't met the right one." I think I am incapable of loving (long-term). And I don't want to engage into a relationship anymore because I may ended up hurting the person.
I'm trying my best to at least love the person as hard. honest as i could but in a short period of time....the feeling is gone.
2007-03-04 01:15:58 · 5 answers · asked by nontester 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Truth: you neither make how you feel, nor how your "lover" feels.
Proof: You try as hard as you can but ... the feeling is gone.
Truth: Love is more than a feeling, more than a mood.
Proof: The great loves, and examples of love, characterize not just feelings, but words, and actions, over time.
Truth: If you expect to live "forever" or at least the next 10 trillion seconds and always only feel the "in-love" feeling for someone, then you will be disappointed.
Truth: Being in love is not the same as experiencing the "in-love" feeling.
Example: A father can love his 14 year old daughter who has joined a gang, become an addict, come home pregnant, etc... The feeling there is not the "in-love" feeling. She stabbed him through his heart, and ruined every hope he had for her. What is left, though devoid of the "in-love" feeling can still be love.
It sounds to me like you have a childs idea of love, and not an adults. The childs idea seems sweeter and better tasting to the child, but when they mature, they long for something better and are unsatisfied with the taste of the childs idea. Thats when the more mature, stronger, more powerful grown-up ideas of love start filling the persons needs, and heart.
Part of love is speaking the truth. You cant promise forever, because you have not traversed it once already. Even if you had traversed forever once, you cant guarantee how things turn out. As often as people like to think they are god, I tell them get humility by trying to walk on water. If you cant walk on water, you certainly cant live forever.
Basics about grown-up love include: its a whole lot more than a feeling. Its a commitment, is a serving the other over serving yourself, even when it hurts. Its a teamwork, a shared vision. Its based on being real about who you are, and grounding your expectations solidly both in reality and effective communication.
Good Luck with Love. Its the only worthwhile pursuit of mankind.
2007-03-04 01:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no guarantee anyone will like you in a day or next week. one thing is for sure, you get married and you WILL end up divorced. 75% of all marriages fail. 90% of women initiate the divorces.
women go sour at 35 and you have better keep separate hidden bank accounts.... for financial sake.
2007-03-04 01:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by edna b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will love my husband till the day i die you just no if its the right one that is all i can say the feelings i have for my husband i cannot even describe i have never felt this way about anyone ever, you just wake up knowing that they are the only one for you in which you can't stop thinking about them you wake up with them on your mind and constantly think about them, the love i have for my husband is just so undescribeable, and they are always there.
2007-03-04 01:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be sure thats what's loves all about - LOVE IS ABOUT TAKING RISKS & TAKING BETS. you may not always get it right but sooner or later you will. Don't think to much about it [love] cause the moment you do puts you in a poisition that may ultimately be for the worse.
2007-03-04 01:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sam K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are puting to much work into something that should come as natural as the rain..you can't force anything like love ...it either is or ain't..just like god and religion it has to come by way of FAITH..blind FAITH..and don't try to make something out of nothing..it just confuses the other person..actions speak louder then words..just walk the walk and don't talk them to tears
2007-03-04 01:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you are with the wrong person and meet the
right one at the wrong time, then you get this I have yet to
meet the right one thing.........................................................
Love cannot be forced you can love someone and not be
compatible, love someone who ends up happy with someone
else, meet someone else who you fall head over heels in love
with and never touch who you are with again because of it......
2007-03-04 01:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by gorglin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋