I traced my father when I was 19 and we got on really well until his wife decided that I was not welcome in her house!! After that our friendship that we had dwindled. We are in touch but very vaguely. I carry his name and think I should change it but why would a man not want to get to know his only child???
2007-03-04 01:09:32 · 12 answers · asked by Miss.memo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Self-obssessed, feels guilty he wasn't there, embarrassed cos he doesn't know you, selfish cos he's never had kids, & needs to protect his current relationship...
hard for you... feel so sorry for you... but don't let it upset the rest of your life. Just send him a Christmas card every year, with messages re: your good wishes for him. Maybe later he'll respond when he realises he would rather have you in his life
XX
2007-03-04 01:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I do not believe it has anything to do with his wife. This one your father needs to shoulder the blame completely. People are weird sometimes and just don't want to deal with their own past. I'm sorry for you and the loss you have suffered not having your father. One question comes to my mind is why did he walk out of your life to start with? Maybe that reason really hasn't changed at all.
Good luck and change your name if that will help you to move on.
2007-03-04 01:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
men r very hard to figure out! but most of us believe that its them just being selffish! n sometimes that is the case but in most cases its becoz they feel lost n confused themselves!
sometimes the best thing in these situations is to walk away and wait for him, let him know that u want him in ur life but dont chase him, let him know that u r waiting for him with open arms wen he feels ready, if he truely wants a realationship with u he will come to u! if not then stop beating urself up about it, c it as this....u havent known him long therefore have 'lost' nothing special!! try arranging to meet him in privert without his wife knowing n discuss the issue, u both can then descide wat is best for the both of u!! but please dont think that its ur fault watever the outcome, u could not have helped the way he has reacted nor prevented the situation, i hope all goes well n gud luck. xx
2007-03-05 21:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by katluvsu4eva2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make your father want to be bothered. I know how you feel my father doesn't really talk to us, (there are four of us) and his new wife doesn't accept us at all. The older he gets the more he'll regret his decision, just enjoy the time that you do spend with him and don't put any expectations on him because you'll just be disappointed.
2007-03-04 01:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some men are just too selfish to be fathers. if it is going to upset his new wife and life at his home will be harder because of it its the easy option for them to withdraw from the situation. woman will battle on no matter what problems may occur but men retreat because they are too selfish to do the hard work it entails. its easier to just ignore you and hope you go away and then his life can go on to suit him and his wife. his loss honey. you cant force someone to love you. you have got this far without him he doesnt sound that great to me.
2007-03-04 11:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by aichandiaye41 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wot is it with men, my dad remarried and she was the wicked step mother from hell really jealous of all his kids didn't want us around just wanted him all 2 herself .
Thankfully he realised his kids com first and their now divorced
hopefully yr dad will com 2 terms( kids are 4 life).
Try having a 121 wiv yr Dad and explain how u feel, might help.
GOOD LUCK..........
2007-03-07 23:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by PAMELA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, maybe his wife has something to do with it, maybe she has threatened him, maybe sees you as a threat for his attention, so sorry to hear this, try to move on and be with people who love and respect you.
2007-03-04 01:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change. If he has kids with his new wife, it could be he wants to move on. Sorry, i wish I could give better news
2007-03-04 01:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him why he doesnt want to get to know you ? And if he continues to avoid you ust forget him . Good Luck .
2007-03-04 01:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he is under pressure from his current wife. Be patient, time will come he will be contacting you.
2007-03-04 01:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋