ok, i've had a huge crush on my guy friend for six months but he had a gf so i'd given up. well last week he broke up with her (she was really bad for him, he would always get depressed with her) and told me he liked me from the first day we met which was exactly how i felt. we went out all through the week and had a date on friday and he held me through the whole thing. we talked so much over the computer and he said he was totally over her and everything and that i was really important to him and we could just sit and cuddle and hold hands... last night he sent me an email saying that he wasn't over her, he'd need a while to get over her, and he might never be able to be with me. i cried all night and i can't picture what's going to happen next. help, please!!!
2007-03-04 00:48:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds as if he is very confused. Let it go. Just be friends and live your life, if things are going to work out between the two of you, they will, but make sure he is really over her and ready to be with you, otherwise you could really get your heart broken.
2007-03-04 00:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you probably don't want to hear this, but sounds like you were the rebound girl.
When the pain of losing/ending your relationship is too hard and you seek a distraction, and often it's not anything personal, just because that other person is handy.
Be thankful he was honest. How would you have felt in 6 months time if he left you to be with her again?
Count your blessings and find someone who will truly care about you, and has minimal baggage.
2007-03-04 08:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Barkditch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do as a friend is let him have his space. Simply say to him ok, I understand and then don't contact him. He'll soon come to his senses. The best thing you can do for yourself is... don't contact him first. And if he contacts you find a reason to make it short and brief. He'll soon realize what he has done and if you are really meant to be together .... well.... you will. Just remember.... YOU don't have to do any of the convincing. If you try to you could push him away forever. Good luck and God bless!
2007-03-04 08:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thought he was over her because of the way you made him feel. You made him happy which is the way his ex made him feel. You made him get over her for whatever the amount of time you spent with him. But when he is all alone in his room, he's going to think about her. And their past. Its not your fault, its something he is going to have to overcome. You shouldnt take this personal, and be there for him. Show him the love that he deserves.
2007-03-04 08:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he used u to get emotional strength, a week really isn't enough time to get over a broken relationship, can't trust what they tell u. u put your trust in what he told u, when a week is never enough time to get past a breakup. she is probably beginning to call him again, and reconcile with him. u were just a rebound girl. u just failed to see the truth, that it takes longer than a week to get over someone. he thought he was over her, wanted another relationship with someone, but she called him that's what happened.
2007-03-04 08:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all never cry over a boy.... there are TOO many boys in this world for you to be crying over one.
there are silly ones and then there are real men who will treat you right....
guys say things but u can't trust or believe him unless he has PROVEN his love for you.
2007-03-04 08:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by La'Grange 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be with him and tell him to choice between you or her
2007-03-04 08:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by ME.....& LOVE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋