son is 15months old,is getting naughtier every day,he pinches,hits,pulls hair,of every body,smashes children?

Question

we are trying every thing possible to make him understand,but it seems he is too young to understand.what to do?how to make him understand,he is teething.

Answer 1

put him in a class with bigger kids so that he gets the hiding of his life when he starts punching.
works every time with little spoilt kids

Answer 2

I have been going through this with my son too (hes now 18 mos) and its starting to tapper a bit..BUT yes i get looks from my friends and people about this, as if to say it was my fault.

Take solice in that its NOT you fault or your CHILD being naughty. Its perfectly developmentally appropriate. I am not saying the behavior is ok or should be allowed..as we do not in my house..but them constantly trying/testing is normal.

The why of it doesn't really matter (typically overtired, frustrated, can't communicate what hes thihking, cause and effect-which sits in right around now, or to get a reaction..or some combo) are probably reasons.

Hitting, spanking, yelling are NOT going to get him to stop and will just aggrivate the situation more ..What we do is say a firm no, hold his hands down by his side for a min while we say this and calmly (no big reaction..kids this age LOVE reaction) put him in his room sitting on the floor for a min as a time out( you can or can not shut the door?) we make him say sorry to us or another kid at the end of the time out!

what i think is important is that you do not engage in a power struggle but rather let him know everytime that this is not acceptable. I wish i could tell you that this makes it stop instantly..it has not for us but as least we have not escalated the prob either. (which we did at first hehe by giving a big fake crying reaction...he thought it was funny and kept doing it..silly parents hehe)

good luck and hang in there ..i know its frustrating!

Answer 3

I don't think spanking is the answer because you are basically punishing hitting with hitting. First of all at this age toddlers are very self involved and don't understand that their actions have an effect on anyone else. If your child acts out, the first thing to do is get down to their level, if your are standing towering over them you may not have their undevided attention. Then in simplest terms possible tell them how their action affected the other person for example " Ow, hitting hurts, we don't hit our friends, look how Billy is crying." Make your child understand how he caused pain to the other child. Then you put your child on a time out, depending on the child 1 minute for each year is usually pretty reasonable. Designate a specific time out spot that isn't near a t.v. or toys. At first you will probably have to keep putting your child back because he won't stay, you may even have to sit there with him. Most important, be consistant. If you give him a time out some times for hitting but not others you will give your child mixed signals. When his time out is finished repeat why he was placed there and when he gets old enough to talk you can have him repeat back to you why he was placed on time out. Then you remind him that you still love him and give him a hug before sending him on his way. I hope this helps, I am no parent expert but I have found this very effective.

Answer 4

My son was going through something sort of similar at that age... maybe not as bad, but similar. Whenever he would hit, pinch, pull, etc. I would pop his hand twice (not hard, but enough to get their attention) and say "NO!" very firm and take him to his room. After he got his crying out, I would kneel down eye level with him and explain to him that we do not hit, or pinch, or whatever it was he got in trouble for. He's 18 months old now, and he no longer does any of that. It took about 2 months and he finally stopped all together. You just have to be consistent. It can get hard and emotional at times, especially on days when they're being worse than usual. The key is communication though. He understands more than you may think. As long as he knows you are not mad at him, you just don't approve of his actions. Voice that, and then after his punishment give him a hug and tell him you love him. Just make sure you tell him exactly why he's in trouble. Also, make sure his dad or whoever else that may discipline him follows the same set of rules you do. It won't help if you're punishing him half the time, and then the rest of the time he's allowed to get away with it from someone else. Good luck to you! Hang in there, and remember, boys will be boys!

Answer 5

He will keep acting this way as long as he knows he's getting away with it. You need to tell him no. This sort of behavior is not okay and that you don't like it. Get down to his level while you are telling him why he is in trouble (or why you're upset with him). He needs to know what he's doing wrong and what he should be doing instead. That is his warning. If he keeps doing it, move on to time-out. Let him sit there for about a minute and then talk to him again about what he's doing wrong and what he should do instead. Let him know that if he keeps doing this then he will get a spank. If he continues, give him a little swat on the butt (not too hard) and sit him back down on a time-out. After a minute, talk to him again. If he still continues, then he just needs to know that you're upset with him and don't give him any more attention. Ignore him in a way, but as you are still watching him. It could be that he is looking for your attention no matter if it's negative attention or positive attention. Only give him attention when he does something good. Let him know that he's being a good boy and you're proud of him. This will make him want more of the positive attention.

This may also be because of his teething. He feels pain in his mouth and doesn't know what to do about it, so he's acting out. When my kids were teething, orajel and tylenol always helped while I sat with them and read them books. My daughter teethed so bad that she would throw up and have diarrhea at the same time. It was a very horrible time for us both! But hang in there and be patient with your little one.

Answer 6

Ugh, that is rough.

A method that we found effective when our daughter would bite or pinch (we were lucky-this was rare and short lived) was to simply (gently) bite or pinch her back. Just enough for her to feel it and be offended. We would then explain to her that when she does that to other people, they hurt and feel sad, too. I can't say for sure that that's why it was never a problem with her, but it was an effective way to open dialogue with her and teach her empathy.

That said, boys and girls really are different, and as your little boy gets older, you will be able to teach him to channel his natural energy and assertiveness into good activities. It's odd how sometimes the things that seem like flaws can turn out to be great assets in our lives.

Good luck to you. And don't beat yourself (or your kid-lol) up. Every parent has their challenges. Yours is one that can be particularly trying and even embarrassing. But you can turn it around and make it a positive. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

There is a set of board books that I find very useful for this type of behavior: Hands Are Not for Hitting,Feet Are Not for Kicking ,
Germs Are Not for Sharing ,Tails Are Not for Pulling
Teeth Are Not for Biting & Words Are Not for Hurting. They were created by a Ph.D.

Answer 8

my son is the same age and was doing the hair pulling and pinching. when he pulls my hair or pinches my face or wherever he gets told a firm no if he does it again another no and a swat on the hand. this got him to stop biting . when he has a tantrum we leave the room but make sure we can still see him and let him cry it out. wehn he's done tantruming hes get a hug and a i love you.

Answer 9

He probably started out foing this occasionally and then you made a big deal out of it and he learned it is a great way to get attention.
What you should do is make an effort to praise him whenever he does anything good, encourage him to stroke instead of pull, kiss instead of bite etc.
Make sure he gets a lot of attention when he kisses and strokes and does nice things, and when he hits or bites say why don't you give me a kiss instead, Mummy likes it when you give her kisses?
If he does, praise him, if he continues biting ignore him and withdraw your attention until he stops doing it.
Good luck!

Answer 10

I'm going trough the same thing!! My daughter is the same age and does the same thing. Just because he's teething isn't an excuse, otherwise whenever something bothers him he will act out. I tell her no firmly and tap her hand, she cries sometimes, but I'm getting through to her.She's starting to understand, and now she does it and laughs because she know we don't want her to do that. Toddlers are complicated !

Answer 11

this is totally easy for little ones of this age group (around 2 years) to act like this. somewhat of scolding him attempt to divert him by potential of different potential. attempt to tell him in a affected person way. additionally checkout if he's disturbed by potential of any element - like different babies could be getting extra interest suddenly and he could sense he's dropping getting interest. as an occasion, arrival of a youthful sibling will divert each and all of the attention being given to him to the recent born. whilst you're looking after such issues, he will provide up doing such issues in an rather little while.