Like I said, I've tried pushing back on it, deep breaths, relaxing, PLENTY of lube, and I just can't stand it, it hurts so much. Any tips on how to decrease the pain? My bf really wants to try it and my sister actually orgasms this way, so maybe I just need a new technique? Thanks in advance.
2007-03-03 21:05:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No experience here...to be honest
But according to the sex lady on oxygen...........1 finger..then 2..then 3....do it until 3 is comfortable...and relax too.
Since you've had bad experiences i guess..you probably are expecting them and are tensing up. So relax.
She says if 3 isn't good...then its a no go.
My friends that have done it tell me as long as his dick stays in....its not that bad......it just sux when he keeps going in and out.
2007-03-03 21:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by My name is not bruce 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres my advice: A.Wait for your body to fully mature an anus hole before you even think about this again (if not an adult over 21 years) B. Get some esteem and tell the BF hes done if hes hung up on this act C. Know theres nothing wrong with you. Most lovers are not having anal sex. I am not interested (although I see nothing wrong with lovers doing so) I am simply not into since I think fairly dumn and prefer other forms of self pleasure)
2007-03-03 22:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Dane Aqua 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it is that much of a problem then you need to take it extremely slow at first- but before you do that you should have him work on you with his fingers so that you are more stretched out and relaxed when he attempts to do anal.
Dont expect to get real pleasure from it though. Females dont have prostate glands like men do so we dont tend to be pleasured through anal endeavors. If youre lucky like that- then brava- but dont expect it and dont let him expect it either.
2007-03-03 21:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont go for the answer, "you are not made for this". You too can have fun doing it. it's just that the spinchter muscle in the anus has three layers, all of which need to loosen up. what you must do is start with a smaller object and gradually reach up to the size of your boyfriends doodle. it may take a couple of weeks but in the end you would enjoy it. i know a woman who, after the first painful experience, started inserting smaller objects in her anus and keeping them there for the better part of the day. That way she stretched her spinchter muscle to accomodate the doodle of her man.
2007-03-03 21:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by shehzad k 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
anal is so amazing that you should not give up on it. your man deserves anal because there is nothing tighter to wrap around his penis and it makes him happy. thats what you should be concerned about. eventually your rectum will stop hurting once youve had anal sex many times. you will get use to it. but u need to use a lot of lube. when i have anal with my girl i almost always have to use a whole bottle of ky because she is so tight. trust me you will learn to like it so just keep letting your bf bang you in your a s s . you will get use to it so dont worry. thats a fact.
2007-03-04 08:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i think if something is extremely painful you shouldnt do it...pain is your bodies way of telling u that theres something wrong. You can damage yourself this way...dont take my word, just go ask your doctor. The anus wasnt made to handle penetration.
your boyf may really want to try it, but i doubt he would do anything that caused him extreme pain, and i doubt you would expect him to, so he shouldnt expect anal sex from you either. Dont do it to please him only, you can get plenty of pleasure from regular sex too. How about asking him if u can wear a strap on and use it on him......see what his response is then.
i know this prob wasnt the answer/tips you wanted , but i just dont think girls should go so far out to try please men, to the extent where they could do themselves some damage and cause themselves a lot of pain. Just say no..please
2007-03-03 21:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by spdy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may not be build that way.
My wife will do anything for me if I give her anal though She go'es nut for it ,
In fact if I ask for sex she'll ask will I get it in the end?
And I will reply "do you want it that way" thats all it takes to get her in bed.
But like I said some woman about 44% just don't get anything from it, and you should not beat yourself up for it,
2007-03-03 21:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwwww hunn u know what tell ur boyfriend no ok ! come on u can cause damamge to the colon ! u can pleasure each other in many ways! i guess if u get used to it ! it would make the pain go away ! so try either getting used to it or not doing it at all!
2007-03-03 21:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why then do you feel you have to do it for your boyfriend? Don't go hurting yourself. If it is that painful I don't think you should, you are going to end up hurting yourself. Tell your boyfriend it is just too painful for you. Sex should be fun for both of you not just him. Why should you be miserable for his own pleasure?
2007-03-03 21:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have endometriosis and I think anal hurts extremely bad because of where my growths are located (down by my rectum). my husband loves it and I feel bad because it hurts me too bad to let him. relaxing, lube, and clitoral stimulation are musts. make sure you control the pace and his entry
2007-03-03 21:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋