My ex ended things 1 mth ago having been together 8 mths on the basis that "her feelings had changed". She has a history of depression & also suffers from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome/SAD.
In the mth prior to the split I notice her being very down. This had happened on 2 previous occasions. The 1st time, I asked if she was ok & she said she was unsure about us & then told me to ignore what she said as she had been "a bit down & it makes her irrational"
The 2nd time I notice her being very insular & I asked if she was ok. She again said she was unsure about us. We both got upset & she said she hated it when she was horrible to me and wanted to give me a chance to get out as she felt she "held me back". I told her I had never thought that.
I pressed her & she admitted she was depressed & went to her dr who gave her prozac & referred her for counselling. 1 wk later she said us was the cause & she wasn't depressed & didn't need counselling.
Is this depression??
2007-03-03 20:58:18 · 11 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes it sounds like it. When people are depressed they really cant see how anyone could love them. They are useless and not worthy of being loved etc. I would encourage her to try the medication and counselling. You could always stay as friends for the time being. I'm going through a similar thing with my ex at the moment. He cant handle a relationship but needs a good friend. Try to remember that when she's depressed 9/10 times she doesnt mean the bad things she says. Hard I know. Just try and support her as best you can. Good luck!
2007-03-03 21:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by hiddenmyname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 21:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can't give an accurate diagnosis but from what you shared it sounds like she is having depressive moods and could be suffering from depression. The depression could be triggered by her health or maybe there's a history of depression in the family. From what I have learned people with depression tend to over analyze their lives and most choose not to seek professional help and if they do most do not stay on the meds prescribed. Until she is feeling better you won't be able to have a good relationship. When she is feeling better she may realize that this is depression and not the relationship. But you need to know that it is hard being with someone who suffers from any form of depression. It's a committment to stand by someone and be supportive even though you don't understand what is going on. You can suggest to her to go back to the doctor or to take her meds but in the end it is up to her.
2007-03-03 21:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sounds like depression, but unfortuately, I found that the best remedy for depression was change. I had councelling, took Prozac and all that did was make me worse. The last time I successfully kicked it was when I left my boyfriend (who I lived with), quit my boring job and moved back with my parents. A few months later I went to university and was absolutely fine for about 3 years. It sounds like your girlfriend needs a change and even though having to end your relationship is a mega bummer, maybe it's part of the change she needs. It's not necessarily because you've done anything wrong, maybe she just needs to be by herself for a while. She's right about not taking the medication though, it's horrible stuff.
2007-03-04 03:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Princess Paradox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some good answers here already but I want to add, a letter is a great way to show your support. Encourage a written dialogue between yourselves because certain feelings are hard to talk about but easier and more productive when written.
Try not to get too deep into the mental aspect, but try to bring up all the good times and their positive elements.
On a personal level I think that anti-depressants should only be a very last resort, I am not a big fan, and unfortunately doctors are much to quick to dole them out. Counselling is a much better option...
2007-03-03 21:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by mr.mishit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi BE, Yes this is depression. I had a friend for 36years and she had depression and a few more things wrong with her. She would always call me when she was down. I could always make her feel better,and before she got off the phone she would say,i always made things better for her. To make a long story short. She email me and said,our friendship was over,and not to email her back or call her on the phone. This has been several months ago. I have moved on with my life,after the total shock. I could never be friend with her ever again. Because she would pull the same crap on me. I don't want to get hurt anymore from this one sided friendship. Yes one sided,i was there for her needs.When i wanted to tell her want was up with me,she wasn't there. So Yes, your girlfriend has depression and is acting just like my x friend for 36 years was acting. They never will get over their depression,and i don't want anymore friends that have depression. It just takes to much out of the 1 without the depression. If i was you,i would move on. A Friend who knows.
Clowmy
2007-03-03 21:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya
your ex is not depressed because of you she may of said this because she was upset bout holding you back as she felt this way. i think you should go and see her and help her through this and see how she feels about you helping and how she feels about you! at the end of the day she still loves you and its prob getting her down even more but you have to take the chance on this if you say you love her that much. she will take you back if you try being there for her try showing her that you love her and there ain't no need for her to feel like she is holding you back.
2007-03-04 08:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by linda r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is definitely depressed but despite the fact that you all have broken up you have eight years invested in a relationship and you should continue to be a friend. she may need you and you understand her apparently. Try to convince her to take her meds and continue with therapy and also if she has any family, you may want to let them know the behavior you are noticing before it gets worse. good luck
2007-03-03 21:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes sometime excessive work , family or pesonal matter, injustice on some basis , pain,medical problem, create depression and sadness in persons mind.In that conditions he/she is not able to face the ppl around him it needs only onethingLOVE and care and hospitality and affection. if she rude to u dont be angry on her just show that u r with her and not leave her alone u say she recover fast that show she is out of problem or will be she s pretending to be recover.
u just hav to take good care of her and not making her feel sad,All the best!
2007-03-03 21:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-28 16:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Holly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋