What would you do if you found out your daughter was pregnant at 16?

Question

The father is very nice and they are in a commited relationship, but he tends to flake out.

Answer 1

Try to be supportive and caring to your daughter (and the BF, too). But I would make her get a job and only get on assistance if you have no other alternative. It will be tough for her, but don't let her get a free ride just because she is in a "delicate" state....
Let the BF know you accept him now as part of the family. He may be flaky, but there is little you can do about it.
Love them all and let them know you will be there for help, but not as a way out of a problem (don't end up raising baby while daughter is out partying or screwing around with friends).

Answer 2

What I would do is to sit down with her and make her reflect on the things she has done and the responsibilities that she will have in future and the sacrifices she has to make as a parent. Firstly a relationship usually goes sour after a girl gets pregnant due to inability to support a family. A break up might occur leaving all the responsibilities to the girl. I would strongly advise that your daughter does not have an abortion as FIRSTLY an abortion can cause her to be depressed and guilty for ending the life of an innocent baby in such an inhumane manner and SECONDLY excessive bleeding may occur which may result in sterility. Do not physically hurt your daughter as this may bring out the rebellious side in her. Hope that this solves your problem/

Answer 3

I might freak out internally at first, but I'd hope I'd give her the love and support she'd need right away. I'd wonder how I failed to give her the proper instruction in morality.

In the end though, I'm sure I'd realize that done is done. I'd give her all the love and support she'd need from me and start looking foward to being a grandmother.

I think I'd also realize that, no matter what we teach our children or fail to teach them, they have to make their own decisions and discover the consequences for themselves. The best thing we can do for our children is to teach them they have the power and the reponsibility to make their own choices and all that comes w/ it.

I would never want my child to conceive a child out of wedlock, especially at so young an age. However, the past cannot be undone and every child is a blessing no matter the circumstance of conception. It's not the worst thing in the world. And a young age does NOT preclude being a good parent. Love and patience make the world go 'round.

Answer 4

Well im 16 and pregnant i realize i made a few bad choises but im in love with the father of my chiled he is supporting me we live in a good neighbore hood i wouldnt change a thing my sis got preg at my age and her hubbi is a bum i cant stand him i would get a job so her and my nephew could live with us trust what your daughter feels but not too much and forgive her my mother packed my clothes through them on the lawn and i found it like that when i came home from tha doc I havent spoke to either of my parent since they wouldnt come to my nephews first birthday because i was gonna be there andbe there for her as much a possible and tell her you love her now more than ever and remember she didnt do this to hurt you she just made a few bad choices o ya and warn her about the morning sickness its really bad i hate

Answer 5

i would be disappointed and i would go off on her at first. but i would support her so she wouldn't have an abortion. my sister got pregnant at 16 and i was like 8 at the time. it happened because she was at her boyfriends house and his parents told my mom they would be there and they weren't so the kids got to be alone and you know. so yeah my mom was really mad at her. but she put that aside, and supported my sister. and no my sister didn't drop out of school. but the school she was going to kicked her and her boyfriend out and sent her to an all girl school and him an all boy school and didn't tell my mom until the last minute. so i think my mom was more mad with that. but anyways.. she went to school and did her work and everything and when she was getting close to having the baby, she stayed home but still did her schoolwork. and she had her baby and finished high school. and she stayed with her boyfriend. she went to college. then they got married and had another baby. so their first kid is 7 almost 8 and the baby just turned 1. and she's like 24 now. so even though she made a big mistake she took it responsibly and grew up early. and it's funny now because even though people talked about her being pregnant and all in high school, she's doing better in her life than pretty much all of her high school friends. i look up to her soo much. so yes you should support your daughter no matter what. and sometimes even if the guy is a jerk he ends up growing up once he really realizes that he's gonna have a baby. just keep holding on and stay strong. it will all work out okay. good luck!

Answer 6

You should sit done and have a serious conversation with her. make it clear that you dont agree with her getting pregnat in the first place but assure her that you will be there to support her emotionally and somewhat finacially. make sure the babys dad is going to get a job and support te child by any means. and make sure the child is living in a good enviornment. i disagree with these other people saying you are a bad mom because your not. many teenagers are having sex and things happen. all you could have done is be there to support her and provide a birth control method for her if she asked. communication is a key factor for mother daughter relationships. good luck and god bless. congratulations on becoming a grandma

Answer 7

three things in the following order:
1. Relax
2. Have a good Heart to Heart with her and the babys father
3. Take her to an obgyn and make sure everything is ok with the baby so far. And having the obgyn talk to her about teen pregnancy's pro's and con's.
I would try to do it all on the same day.

Answer 8

when, as a mom, you think of all you have invested in your child emotionally and otherwise, I would be devastated. It is basically her future "out the window". It's done but I question how committed 2 16 year olds can honestly be!

Answer 9

She would be well both of them would be in a world of hurt if i found out i had a teenage daughter pregnant at age 16 or vise versa with my son.

Answer 10

i would be disappointed. it doesn't matter how nice the father is since they are both children. i would make sure that my daughter had the best medical care.
i would work quickly at teaching both children about the responsibilities of parenthood and i would suggest adoption if they did not want to consider abortion.
i would make sure i had an open relationship with the boy's parents. i would try very hard not to judge.