help me my kids are out of hand?

Question

I let my kids watch the simpions and other
shows like that (oldes 10 years youngest is 8)
thay have had very bad launguage
i do not know if it is the shows thay are watching
or at there school
can you give me some help to settle them down
me and my hubby can not handle it

Answer 1

Don't allow them to watch programming with language (or attitudes) that you wouldn't want to hear them picking up and using. Set some house rules about what kind of language/behavior you won't allow, and let them know the consequences for breaking the rules.

Answer 2

1. You should be controlling and supervising what your kids watch on TV. The Simpsons is NOT a kids' show!!! Let them watch Avatar or something. People in general are far too comfortable believing that TV causes no harm to kids.

2. Bad language should not be an option. Let them know you're sick of it, won't be allowing it any more, and the consequence for using bad/rude language from now on is going to be [ ____ ]. Possible consequences are: early bedtime, no TV for two days, no computer, extra chores (they hate that one), writing sentences. To be fair, you can tell them that for a certain amount of time (two weeks seems fair) you will give them ONE warning with the opportunity to choose better words. After that, jump straight into assigning the consequence.

3. They are getting it at school, too. I'm honestly not sure how you can expect to change their behavior there.

4. Make sure your own mouths are clean. Children learn by example, after all. If you don't use this type of language, great! You're one step ahead of the game.

Answer 3

I wouldn't let them watch those kind of shows if I were you b/c they were designed for adults, T.V. definitely has an impact on how our kids behave. You should monitor everything they watch and the kinds of people they hang out with. Remember that kids do what they see, but if they are taught that those things are not acceptable in your house they will have a better chance acting more responsible when you're not present. I myself would discipline them, (in whatever fashion it is that you and your husband do), but the key is consistency, you can't let them get away with it one day, and then the next day tell them it's wrong, if you tell them they're going to be punished for something, then you have to follow through with it, b/c if you just keep threatening them they are not going to listen to you or respect you, b/c they will know you don't mean what you say, you have to stay up on it, if you don't you will only confuse them by sending them mixed signals. Don't give up on them, they will get better, just love them alot and keep up the hard work, they will appreciate it when they are older

Also I know that playing alot of video games is not good either, all that movement and stuff, plus it's been proven that video games can cause seizures and can put them in a bad mood after hours of playing video games, I'd cut it down to an hour a day, just thought I'd through that in...I wish you the best

Answer 4

Is it just bad language, or is there something else going on? If it's just bad language, consider yourselves lucky. Tell them every time you hear a bad word coming out of their mouths, that's one day without the Simpsons. It's probably coming from school, they don't use foul language on daytime TV. I take away TV time because it's good for them to get outside or use their imaginations. But if you find out that the language is coming from a particular friend of theirs, call that childs mother and ask her if they can play at your house next time. Explain to her that you want to watch for the problem language and try to put a stop to it. She may not know about the problem, but hopefully by talking about it, you can work together to supervise the kids when they play together, and eventually it will get better. Not much can be done at school I'm afraid. I've fought that battle and lost. They "simply don't have the time or the staff to provide that kind of supervision and moral guidance." (or teach math)

Answer 5

Ages 10 and 8 are kinda old to be telling them all of a sudden that their behavior is not acceptable anymore. I'm sure that alot of their behavior is based on what they are allowed to watch on TV. Find them something else to do, interests, more time on homework or something of the sort to occupy the time they would spend watching the Simpsons. Have them help with dinner. Have them play together, using their imaginations. When they use language that is not acceptable anymore, they need consequences, but first you need to sit down as a family and discuss why it is no longer acceptable, what is expected of them and that there will be consequences for their bad behavior and reward them for good behavior. I have found that it's easier to reward a happy child than to discipline an angry one. Anyway, good luck to you as a family.

Answer 6

Consider the way you & your hubby talk in the family & to each other.If you are polite & considerate dont worry,your kids wont be dirty-language criminals.Dont punish them,keep on explaining why this or that thing is bad,find a better entertainment than tv-shows for them,spend more time together and one day theyll turn into good people.
Swearing is a part of our life.You cant ignore it altogether.We all use bad language occasionally...think of it...

Answer 7

OK punishment with out soap or hitting

1 if there not old enough to control there mouth and copy what they see on TV they have to stick to lil kid TV shows
2 for every cuss word said they lose a toy or fav object or activity
3 if they can not respect there parents them they get to stay in there rooms until they can

Answer 8

When I was eleven I developed a real potty mouth. My mom blamed South Park. So she slapped my face, washed my mouth out with soap, and forbid me from watching South Park until my language improved.

South Park was popular with my friends at school and I didn't want to miss out - so I watched my language around my Mom and she let me watch South Park.

Answer 9

Well, since they enjoy watching the Simpson's and shows like it, take those privileges away when they curse. And tell them specifically that the reason they can't watch the shows is because of their bad language. They'll catch on.

Answer 10

First, sit them down and explain that their behavior is not exceptable.

Second, take away their favorite things for a week or so..

If this don't improve their behavior
try a good old-fashioned spanking as a last resort.