Is it Depression?

Question

ok so i was just married in june 2006. And i have the greatest husband.. treats me very well and takes care of me.. i work about 40-50 hrs a week-mostly evening shifts. When i get off work i am very tired-but for some reason i can never go sleep right away. I try to get up early so that my new hubby and i can go to the store, clean the house, and just get up to spend time with him. I Can't hardly ever get up.When i dont get up im really very crabby and fight with him for not waking me up-Like it's his job or something... or i'll just start picking at him for something stupid and i dont know why... I always regret it and I cry afterwards most of the time. I need to get out and DO things.. like fishing..going out with friends... or even going to visit with relatives... but i just dont... i want to...my husband is a great guy and does not deserve this.... what can I do to make myself better?

Answer 1

Honestly, it appears you do not have depression, but sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation can have the same symptoms as depression, such as being irritable, cranky, and restless. It's not your fault you feel this way. You describe insomnia early in your question. Your doctor can give you medication to help you sleep better and longer. You must have 8-9 hours of sleep per night to have optimal mental health. Sleep deprivation can lead to depression over time because the brain is not given a chance to rest if you are not sleeping enough hours. Try getting 8-9 hours of sleep per night for 1 week and re-evaluate your symptoms. You might find they have lessened. If not, see your doctor for a full exam and depression screening. Also, try to relax about being a good wife. Your husband will understand if you sleep in. Both of you can do things like clean and shop together after you get your sleep. If he is a good man like you say he is, he will mostly definitely give you the time to sleep and take care of yourself. If he is an early riser, take the time to talk with him about your insomnia and need for extra sleep at this time. Let him know about how stressed you are about getting up early with him, working long hours, etc. so he can help you relax. Once you being sleeping normally and for enough hours, I bet you feel better and will once again feel like doing the activities you want to. Good luck!

Answer 2

You're rushing your body into motion before getting sufficient rest. Once your body relaxes enough to sleep, you should let the sleep occur for however long is needed to fully relax.

After being fully refreshed your husband will appreciate you more and you'll both enjoy less time together, but more quality time than functioning by a clock. What's the good of 4 hours together if only 1 hour is pleasant? Best to have a good two hours together, isn't it?

Answer 3

You sound like my wife, she doesn't socialize, is always complaining of feeling unwell, can't get up on a morning, lashes out at me, takes for granted everything I do, very rarely lifts a finger to help, difference being you show emotion, my wife is cold with it and emotionally blackmails me by giving me the silent treatment if I want to go out with friends or more generally, when she feels like it. Sometimes you've got to force yourself to do stuff to get you going, you work long hours and have little time to socialize, make the most of the hours free that you have and show your hubby a little appreciation and you'll feel your achieving something. Most of all, relax when you get if from work, go to bed earlier, but make it worth your while by showing some love and attention in the hours you would normally sit and do nothing.

Turn the TV off and share a moment with your hubby and you'll feel warm again,

Answer 4

A good relationship is more important than a clean house. What shift does your husband work? If you can, try and work your quality time after you get off work. Obviously it takes you time to wind down, and you need your beauty sleep. You're not lazy sleeping in till noon if you didn't get to bed until four, and if you didn't get to bed until four because you and your husband watched movies and talked all night, what harm is there in that?

Answer 5

I worked shift work for many years. I know how it can screw things up. At first glance, you're not getting enough sleep. For example, if you get home a mid- and get up at 6AM, no wonder you're tired.

Don't worry about not seeing much of him weekdays,.

I worked shift work many years, seldom saw my wife during the week. So, we made up for it weekends, and didn't sweat the small stuff.
As a result, we're a few months away from our 40th anniversary.

I worked (recent job ) 2pm to 11PM. I did stuff around the house until 3 AM, went to bed, and woke up around 10 or 11. I shopped for groveries, etc. vacuumed, etc.. did this stuff during the week, so we didn't have to do it weekends.

I weighted the advantages of shift work, For example, schedule a dr appt for 1PM. I could just go, rather than shedule work around it.

Shift work can screw you up if you let it.

Answer 6

Google depression and see if the symptons fit. Then see a Docter. There are all sorts of good medications on the marked to help you. I sounds like you may be depressed. Continuous sadness, hopelesness, worthless, sleeping disorder, mood swings,and many more are some of the signs. Remember that you do not have the diplay all the symtons to be depressed.

Answer 7

You do a lot and your vital energy is depleted. Take 2 tbls. apple cider vinegar in a glass of water 3-4 x day. Has 93 vitamins and minerals. Hair and nails will love you for it. You will have boundless energy. Stop nagging at yourself and tell yourself. what a wonderful life that you have and such a good husband Give him some acv too.

Answer 8

Even a great marriage is a major adjustment--good stress, but stress. Is there any way you could work fewer hours? Clean the house less? Spanking clean houses are for when there are rugrats around. Take long romantic walks together? Eat lots of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.

If this hasn't worked by the time your first anniversary rolls around, please go for counseling.

Answer 9

To get to know whether it is a depression or not, you may identify symptoms of depression that you might've been experiencing. Those symptoms are:
1. Prolonged period of sadness. Not feeling "up to it"
2. Feel hopeless. Feeling sorry for one's self.
3. Guilt-driven, loss of self-worth and helplessness.
4. Isn’t interested in finding or taking pleasure.
5. Fatigue, always tired.
6. Having trouble concentrating, having bad memory and is indecisive.

Once you can identify above mentioned symptoms, you can get further solution for your depression problem.

Answer 10

No this is not depression it is very natural in your case if possible make children as quick as possible,