My life has been in a s*** hole for in the last 4 yrs because of my siblings. But who can help me?

Question

my dad has always chosen both my bro and sis over me. He trusted them for everything. They asked money like lots of money and he gave it to them until we finally had to sell everything we have. Now, everything has changed. I have to work my butt of to get a scholarship to study because dad can not afford it. He said that I am a victim of a situation that he trusted my bro and sis too much but disregarded me. Now, my bro and sis totally ignore him and my mom. My sis still want to help but with those money she has, she only help my parents only 0.1% . My bro and sis only have a year gap between them but both have more than 5 yrs gap in age with me. They both are helping each other but none of them helping me. My dad always said that I shouldnt worry bout things thats why I need to let the time help me or something like that but I need the problem to be solved now because my situation is about to stay or leave this country, while my siblings are successful people here. What should I do

Answer 1

Life is a funny thing. Life is never fair. You just have to make things better for yourself and your family. My life seemed like it was going to a bad start, but in the end it's looking good. You just have to hang in there and have a talk to your parents and your siblings. Blood will always be thicker than water. if you decide to leave the country because of the problems you have at home, You are just running away from your problems and making things worse. In the long run the problems you have right know will only make you a better person and a stronger person. Good Luck!

Answer 2

As a parent your main responsibility is to your siblings. No matter how hard to be with them, it is still you're "load" to carry on, to give them the love and support while they are growing up. As a mother, an obligation to your children means a fulfilling essence of being a woman.
If the situation calls for that they are grown-ups now and successful, then I think, this is the time now, that you have to build your own life. Give the best thing that you can to your most precious life. Once again, find the most peaceful way of living that can give happiness to you.
Your parents are your parents, and they are living the way what life for them means. If you can afford to sustain them, then go on, carry the load of your parents in sauch a way that try your very best to mend a broken family of yours. It is not good that your parents, sister, brother and you are not in good terms with each other. Family is a God-given gift to mankind. Built the foundations once again, I know it is hard, but in the end happiness will prevail. Always pray to God...He is there always waiting for your call. Don't worry for tomorrow for Gos will provide everything for us. Have faith in Him.

Answer 3

Honey we are in the same boat, You are alive though and no one it seems has excluded you out.do you all talk much.Is there a real bad conection here.What or how did they get where they are which is where? My parents are dead no great loss there. My sister and brother have completely pushed me out .My brother stabbed me in the back over the will and evil sister is appealing for me to get my share of my mother,s estate.My brother came here to Austin stold my best friend and now they have plotted against me,Suffer honey you don,t know what real suffering is till you get in my situation, It has affected me so bad i got sick, I,m still fighting for my part of the will, i was put out of it S--t can,t talk about it any longer,Brlieve them out of your life would be brtter,And so will your Mental Health.At least they don,t hate your guts,But in a sense they stold from you.I know that hurt,

Answer 4

I could go on & on about how this is so tough for you, how I feel for you, but that wont help.
I think you need to blot these other people out of your existence by thinking of yourself as being like a prized race-horse. You are in a race to win top prize & to get there, you need to wear (blinkers, to stop you worrying about what's going on behind you, so you concentrate on the field ahead.

By being distracted by petty, mean, jealous, hurtful types, you risk allowing yourself to over-react, with very negative consequences to your own life & goals).

Answer 5

don't self-pity.. i won't do good.. anyways, this is your chance to be recognize by your dad and mom but you really have to work hard. if your sister and brother won't help your parents, why not be the first on the list of helping them. i know that right now, you're still feeling bad but work everything slowly.. slowly until you realize that's it's all paying off.

don't ever hate your sister or brother for what happened instead, pray for them cause they we're blinded by their possessions..

Answer 6

apply for Dr. Phil

Answer 7

hi there, try looking in to student loans , I am sure they could help you
good luck,
Val