There is my nanna and her boys, Wanye my Dad the olderst then Stephen, Mark, Robert, &Graham.( olny 10yrs older then me) All FUN loving,caring, rough aussies.Always lived with or close 2 each other. My uncle Robert died of cancer 4 years ago now, nan took it hard, had a stroke,(not a bad one,she is still all there & working) all other uncles have/ had drug problems, divorces,2 of them had kids taking by welfare,ect..(my dads had olny a divorce,from mum). Anyway my uncle Mark, was always my fariovite uncle,untill about 17 years ago when i stayed at his house,&something should of never ever of happen,2 a little girl by her uncle,happened.I hid rebeled bably,done heavy drugs,clean now,9yrs.Then told best friend one night &felt so good,ive told mum, but cant seem to tell Dad or Nanna or any of that family side,& i think i need to,too fully get on with my life.But it will destroy my family..My Dad will be beside him self, & want 2 go kill him. Or should i keep it hidden 4 another 17yrs...
2007-03-03 18:59:01 · 12 answers · asked by goolie06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No. The sooner you tell her, the better. If you tell her and then she dies, it would be like leaving on a bad note. But the sooner you tell her, the more time you two have to become closer in your relationship. Who knows, maybe you and your nana could become close friends after all this and you won't have that secret between you anymore.
Good luck.
2007-03-03 19:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No- IT has been hidden long enough.. Think about this.. What if he is doing this to other little girls? Would you want them to go through what you did? This is always an ugly situation that tears families apart, BUT you need to bring this man to justice! What he did was WRONG! If you had a daughter- would you want this guy around? You did nothing wrong! It will be craziness and may bring back alot of memorie you have tried to forget but people need to be aware of him. This could be happening to other people in the family or may have in the past- You may not be alone in this situation but You won't know if you keep it a secret! Also you may want to seek counselling- that is an awful thing for anyone to go through! Be strong- all you are working on now is giving this nightmare a conclusion!
2007-03-03 21:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to you in the past means you have to be very careful in the future. Your family seems to be an "odd" one ,since as I analyzed is nearly a broken one or a family not respecting each other's life. There is no love that binds to all of you.
Well, if your reason is simply to told anyone with your past, and then what? What will happen? Try to think very carefully the advantage and the disadvantage of the situation. If you divulge the situation, everybody got affected and maybe each of you will part ways or have a haertache with each other. And, you have a peace of mind?
On the other hand, if you keep your secret for yourself, and find a way to live a normal life and forget the past, what will happen? You don't have to sort to that bad ways since you are hurt. Stand up and build your new life without any remorse on your part. Find peace with God.....be with Him always and you can find what you want in life. If God can forgive why can't you?
Be brave to face the world as you go along with your life.
2007-03-03 19:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by FX777222999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone,donot wait any longer. He was in the wrong and god only knows who else he has molested or is still molesting. Think about that one. It is wrong what he did to you and you need to know it was notyour fault at all. He is a sick pervert and the sooner you tell the sooner he will hopefully get what he deserves. Also you need to go to counseling. I have been there too as I am sure alot of us have. To me without the counseling it is harder to deal with. Or keep talking to someone about it. Good luck to you and sorry tat you had to ever go thru it but the strong survive honey and you are on the right track. Keep going.
2007-03-03 21:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by copperfish310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 years sober and yes do tell nana before she goes and your father. They may or may not believe you and you need to be prepared for the anger, but in the long run you will benefit from it for your own clean time.
If you are using the meetings to stay clean then I suggest that you also not do this without a sponsor and lots of meetings.
2007-03-03 19:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with nanna sick and your dad trying to deal with that, I'd wait. tell your friends or someone you can trust and maybe even write the *** that done it a letter telling him how you fell and how it's affected you. I'm sure he won't repeat it, he'd be to ashamed of that. you do need to know that it's not your fault, and you were the victim of it. get it off your chest as long as no one gets hurt.
good luck!
2007-03-03 19:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by mrsavonlady2005@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of in specific circumstances we underestimate our babies in thinking they are in a position to't cope with undesirable information or thoughts. whilst my grandfather died i replaced into 6 years previous or maybe although he lived in Mexico and we lived in G.A my mom and dad sat us down informed us that even although our grandpa had long gone to heaven he might continuously be in our heart and he may be waiting for us till the day we went to heaven ourselves. i be attentive to it sounds very short and straightforward yet I gotta inform you that as a newborn understanding that even although he replaced into long gone, at some point i might see him and that made it extra bearable. i might depart out the section the place he had yet another kin for whilst they're extremely older to comprehend that frequently as adults we make determination which at the instant are not the terrific and are very hurtful to those around us besides the undeniable fact that it does not propose he did not love them. do not carry anger interior because of fact regrettably the only one that hurts with hate is you, anger and resentment keeps us from shifting on with our lives and getting over somebody that has harm us and prevents us from forgiving that person and forget approximately situations that we could desire to enable flow of and to be easy forgiving them is the only thank you to go on. i'm hoping that the kin a minimum of has the decency to tell you the place the funeral is so as that your babies could have a suitable see you later with their father and could have some closure and end an rather unsteady financial disaster of their existence, by no potential enable them to make you sense undesirable for leaving him and giving your babies a extra stable existence they decerve it and additionally you decerved it too. i'm sorry to your loss and robust success.
2016-10-17 05:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's tuff. first of all don't kill your dad! no matter how bad things get you can't be a murderer! ask for some help by a coucler. they will help you with everyhting you need. plz do this to get on with you life and feel better.
2007-03-03 19:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he raped you, you need to tell the poloce, even if it was a long time ago, that is a sick person that needs to face the consequences of his actions, i am very sorry to hear that
2007-03-03 19:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont forget hes the problem not you.
2007-03-03 19:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by peaco1000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋