Help! I'm 16 years old, my boyfriend is 22. Is that weird?

Question

I've been going out with a guy who's extremely sweet, romantic, respectful, and just great. The problem is, he's 6 years older than I am. Is this relationship too weird? We have so much in common and we totally relate to each other. Please help!

Answer 1

I used to think something would be wrong with that, but now that i am 24 yrs old and my fiance is 36...I see nothing wrong. The biggest thing is, if you care about him, and he cares about you...you both will wait till you're 18 to continue the relationship, you can get him in a lot of trouble. In two years though...go for it...if he treats you right...age doesn't matter. If for some reason your parents are ok with it...then by all means be happy. Wait for sex though! A relationship gets stronger when you become best friends first...two yrs is not that far away, just hold on! If you can't wait for him or visa-versa...tell your parents about him in a mature way...and introduce them...honesty is so important in life!

Answer 2

I'm very sure you're a very mature young lady, but there is so much more to learn within the next few years and much more development to be made, especially during college. I'm not that much older than you, so I know that at 16 it feels like you're already an adult. But believe me, a 22-year-old thinks and feels much differently than a 16-year-old, and when you're 22 you will feel that this relationship calls for some more introspection. You seem to already know that there are some red flags going up, and your intuition is your best friend. Listen to what your gut instinct tells you. If you have any doubts about age difference, no matter what kind of personality he has, you should wait until you are truly ready to take on a long-term relationship. People can change their outward appearance in a matter of months, so tread cautiously and don't put your entire life in his hands.

Answer 3

no way girl. that's totally fine. i'm going out with a guy who also is extremely sweet, romantic, respectful, and just great. to me he is the guy that most girls can only dream of. i love him so much and this is the very first relationship i've been in that the feeling is mutual. my mom says of course he likes me, i'm a high schooler. but he couldn't care less. my guy likes me for me, and that's a first in my life. i want nothing and no one but him and that's love as far as i'm concerned. i read one of your answers that said as long as you two are of the same mentality, then why not? and my boyfriend is ten times as mature as guys my age that i know. sorry, i can't stop talking about him! but i think it's awesome that you guys have things in common and can relate cuz that's what will hold your relationship together. and i can't stand dating guys my age; i've always went older but this time was different and you know what? he's a keeper lol. so don't have a single worry okay? peace out!

Answer 4

It's not as weird as it sounds. Technically it is quite normal for relationship with that type of age difference. The only dilemma in your case is that you are still under 18 years. It all depends on the length of the relationship. I would say continue, but if it just came about recently I would possibly think of alternative motives on his part. I would support any relationship where the woman feels a strong connection, but generally speaking most grown men have had at least some experience with dating and know how young mind works. With that being said, I wish you all the best and good luck convincing most traditional parent types.

Answer 5

if u have so much in common then y r u doubting whether ur relationship is weird? the only problem u'd face is he being more mature then u would be. but then it all depends on u, since u say that u can realate to each other, then u might urself be a mature gal. so wats the problem? the age gap? nah.. not a problem. i myself is in a relationship, i'm 19 n my boyfriend is 24. c.?? 5 years gap! but always remember to be tolerent to each other, n understand each other well, n dun let the age issue always be the issue between u guys! good luck! have fun. ( cause it fun to have someone thats kinda alot elder than u r) seriously!

Answer 6

I think it's totally weird and I can't see what you two could possibly have in common. First of all he sounds like he can't find anyone his own age that he can relate too.Okay lets look at the whole picture, He can vote,you can't. He can drink you can't.I think he is either slow or stupid And if you are having sex with him he can be convicted of rape other words he's an adult and your a minor. You should be with kids your own age having fun.Tell him it's over and go back to your age group.

Answer 7

My mother once told me that people can date at any age difference it is that both have to be on the same level mentally with each other.

That means either your boyfriend has the IQ of a 16 or you have to IQ of a 22 year old.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

A bit weird, because i dont understand why your bf who is either in college or done with college still interested in someone still in high school. Since you are not on your legal age there's no fun for him when he can't go to bars or rated R movies with you. But age doesnt matter as long as you guys love each other.

Answer 9

as you get older and start dating seriously, ages doesn't matter very much because girls generally mature faster therefore a younger girl-older guy is in fact, common. at 22, he is emotionally and probably financially stable, compared to your male counterparts at 16 therefore its no surprise that you are seeing him. as long as he treats you right, there is equal respect, status and the relationship is healthy, there is no reason why this is weird.

Answer 10

well in middle school and high school, it is always a little weird going out with a person extremely older, but once you actually get married, there are people who are A LOT older than one another. as long as you think it is reasonable, i think that its fine.